There's a difference between a want and a need. What your girlfriend wants is not in her best interest. You need to speak up. She needs therapy. Her mom needs to know. It's not what she wants but it is what she needs.
As far as I know from his perspective it was more I give up on trying to force something that I’m not open to. I remember telling him good that’s all I ever wanted was him to leave me alone and he did
as someone on the autism spectrum, sometimes I say things that are unacceptable and offensive, and I usually take a bit to think on it and apologize.
Oh, I forgot to mention, they often do this. It takes them roughly 3-5 hours from when an argument starts, to when they apologize. They eventually do understand that their words can hurt me, but it takes a lot of explaining to get them to understand.
I definitely don't think they're purposefully trying to hurt me. Subconsciously at worst, maybe. But I think the issue is that, for them, it just doesn't come naturally to understand why/if something will be potentially hurtful to say or do.
I'm not going to comment on the age gap, but it seems that there isn't much you can do about this. He is a father and that's his responsibility first and foremost. Actually, it sounds like he's being a pretty shitty father by trying to move his kid in with someone who is also a kid, and admits to being bad with children.
If you don't want to break up with him, you should move out and get your own place. Because the relationship is going to go south very quickly once the child is moved in. 12 years old living with a 20 year old? yeah that kid is going to think this is weird AF that they're living with their dad's boyfriend that is super close to their age. I see a lot of conflicts in your future if this happens.
The IUD is not the problem here. The removal of an IUD, even a fairly new one, is no big deal. There’s a much bigger conversation to be had and the IUD isn’t it.
I experienced that in a previous marriage and it was so freeing after that marriage ended. I thought for so long there was something wrong with me (which is the way she made me feel).
So because internet built the internet in your opinion, it means is normal? Interesting causal link
There's a difference between a want and a need. What your girlfriend wants is not in her best interest. You need to speak up. She needs therapy. Her mom needs to know. It's not what she wants but it is what she needs.
You’re the side guy
As far as I know from his perspective it was more I give up on trying to force something that I’m not open to. I remember telling him good that’s all I ever wanted was him to leave me alone and he did
I’m so glad someone else Is mentioning this – 16 weeks is very far along ?
as someone on the autism spectrum, sometimes I say things that are unacceptable and offensive, and I usually take a bit to think on it and apologize.
Oh, I forgot to mention, they often do this. It takes them roughly 3-5 hours from when an argument starts, to when they apologize. They eventually do understand that their words can hurt me, but it takes a lot of explaining to get them to understand.
I definitely don't think they're purposefully trying to hurt me. Subconsciously at worst, maybe. But I think the issue is that, for them, it just doesn't come naturally to understand why/if something will be potentially hurtful to say or do.
Are you really 29??
I'm not going to comment on the age gap, but it seems that there isn't much you can do about this. He is a father and that's his responsibility first and foremost. Actually, it sounds like he's being a pretty shitty father by trying to move his kid in with someone who is also a kid, and admits to being bad with children.
If you don't want to break up with him, you should move out and get your own place. Because the relationship is going to go south very quickly once the child is moved in. 12 years old living with a 20 year old? yeah that kid is going to think this is weird AF that they're living with their dad's boyfriend that is super close to their age. I see a lot of conflicts in your future if this happens.
People are watching way too much porn these days. Am I actually meant to believe this is real? Come on
The IUD is not the problem here. The removal of an IUD, even a fairly new one, is no big deal. There’s a much bigger conversation to be had and the IUD isn’t it.
I experienced that in a previous marriage and it was so freeing after that marriage ended. I thought for so long there was something wrong with me (which is the way she made me feel).
3rd party as in, is he cheating