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You are obviously a young person who has never invested and integrated their life with someone else financially, emotionally and family wise.
I was with a covert narcissist for 33 years before we were so “woke” about what narcissism was. You have no idea what it's like to run on a hamster wheel running a household, raising children, working full time and navigating a marriage that is nude with a narcissist who is chipping away at your mental and physical help with gaslighting and deception.
I am in therapy for my trauma bonding to my ex. When you were raised on survival control looks like love, and the longing to fix things is strong. You know, fixers often find destroyers to partner with. The destroyer keeps the fixer busy. So busy that the fixer doesn't have time to look at themselves and that can result in decades in a relationship that probably should never have happened in the first place.
But, by all means interpret what I told OP as trying to hurt someone else other than advice to protect herself.
Thanks. That's what I was hoping for, because I'm always hoping that I'm responding to a good person.
To bring it back to your question of “why doesn't he trust me?” The answer is there's no logical reason that he doesn't. He's insecure. He was in a garbage relationship 7 years ago which hurt him. But he's been with you since then. Have those 7 years not proven that you can be trusted?
He might want to have a future together. He might know you're supporter of him. But after all this time and proof of how good a partner you are, he still doesn't trust you. That's a monumental problem on his part, and you shouldn't sit here accepting it as if it's going to magically get better.
Your pushing him over compliments again doesn't matter for your purposes as much as you want to continue to focus on it. To be honest, if he did compliment other women, outside of lying (which we addressed), it's a non-issue.
Anecdotally, I told my high school girlfriend of three years that I wanted a future with her. When I said it, I absolutely meant it. But then life happened and our relationship failed. I now feel like I need to make a very serious point here; this isn't about a “relationships require work” situation. The relationship was objectively unhealthy. We're now both happily married to other people and actually have an amicable relationship with each other.
Sorry, it sounds like he is gone. I would ask to meet to see the dogs. Talk to him then. Act positive and don't act needy, maybe you can get him thinking.
Just know that time heals all wounds, even the deep ones.
OP, if you want to be manipulated and controlled, then stay with this guy.
Eventually he’ll do this with everything you do, say, or wear in an effort to train you to do as he asks to avoid his cruelty.
And that won’t work, because it won’t be enough. Next he may try to alienate you from family and friends, maybe even police your internet use so you don’t have people telling you that it’s him, not you.
Speaking as someone who has been through this, and witness countless other women’s experience (I’ve worked with DV organizations), it’s time to leave.
However, people rarely listen to advise unless it’s what they want to hear, so good luck.
i don't get why people get upset that they share sex life stuff. is this only an American thing? i mean if you see a couple with a child you can be pretty sure they had sex, how is it different if my girl just tell her girls she had sex?
Even if you arent the side chick…he isnt into you. He could care less if you hang out. Stop initiating any communication for a week or 2 and see how badly he actually wants you in his life.
Oh girl cmon where are your standards?! It’s been 3 dates and you’re swooning over his words but choosing to ignore his actions. Why? How does that benefit you at all?
You see that he is constantly on his phone and doesn’t pay attention to you. What about you exactly is he fantasizing about because I’m failing to see how he could know you at all when he isn’t even paying attention to you. Are you so easily swayed by pretty words that you’re willing to ignore the glaring red flag is he waving in front of your face? HE is the one too distracted to see around him, not you. Don’t blind yourself by your feelings so much that you actively choose to ignore what is right in front of your face.
You should feel extremely guilty about trash cheating on your partner. Are you trying to play stupid? One should let some other guy do stuff after a breakup. Not while thinking about breaking up and still in said relationship. You emotionally cheated with the other guy and then physically cheated because you wanted to see what else was out there. Throwing a buzzword in there is gross. People who care about their partners do this after breaking up, not to their partners, and then continue to lie and keep secrets.
Your partner deserves to know the truth, so that he can be the one to decide if he wants to stay with a disrespectful cheater.
Wtf is wrong with you? Just have hook ups if the only thing appealing about being a boyfriend is to fuck. And if he has an issue, silent treatment is a disgusting thing for any person, man or woman, to do. Completely immature behavior.
You are obviously a young person who has never invested and integrated their life with someone else financially, emotionally and family wise.
I was with a covert narcissist for 33 years before we were so “woke” about what narcissism was. You have no idea what it's like to run on a hamster wheel running a household, raising children, working full time and navigating a marriage that is nude with a narcissist who is chipping away at your mental and physical help with gaslighting and deception.
I am in therapy for my trauma bonding to my ex. When you were raised on survival control looks like love, and the longing to fix things is strong. You know, fixers often find destroyers to partner with. The destroyer keeps the fixer busy. So busy that the fixer doesn't have time to look at themselves and that can result in decades in a relationship that probably should never have happened in the first place.
But, by all means interpret what I told OP as trying to hurt someone else other than advice to protect herself.
Thanks. That's what I was hoping for, because I'm always hoping that I'm responding to a good person.
To bring it back to your question of “why doesn't he trust me?” The answer is there's no logical reason that he doesn't. He's insecure. He was in a garbage relationship 7 years ago which hurt him. But he's been with you since then. Have those 7 years not proven that you can be trusted?
He might want to have a future together. He might know you're supporter of him. But after all this time and proof of how good a partner you are, he still doesn't trust you. That's a monumental problem on his part, and you shouldn't sit here accepting it as if it's going to magically get better.
Your pushing him over compliments again doesn't matter for your purposes as much as you want to continue to focus on it. To be honest, if he did compliment other women, outside of lying (which we addressed), it's a non-issue.
Anecdotally, I told my high school girlfriend of three years that I wanted a future with her. When I said it, I absolutely meant it. But then life happened and our relationship failed. I now feel like I need to make a very serious point here; this isn't about a “relationships require work” situation. The relationship was objectively unhealthy. We're now both happily married to other people and actually have an amicable relationship with each other.
Sorry, it sounds like he is gone. I would ask to meet to see the dogs. Talk to him then. Act positive and don't act needy, maybe you can get him thinking.
Just know that time heals all wounds, even the deep ones.
Simply put, you ask your friends not to invite you to things that she'll be at and you start expanding your social circle.
OP, if you want to be manipulated and controlled, then stay with this guy.
Eventually he’ll do this with everything you do, say, or wear in an effort to train you to do as he asks to avoid his cruelty.
And that won’t work, because it won’t be enough. Next he may try to alienate you from family and friends, maybe even police your internet use so you don’t have people telling you that it’s him, not you.
Speaking as someone who has been through this, and witness countless other women’s experience (I’ve worked with DV organizations), it’s time to leave.
However, people rarely listen to advise unless it’s what they want to hear, so good luck.
i don't get why people get upset that they share sex life stuff. is this only an American thing? i mean if you see a couple with a child you can be pretty sure they had sex, how is it different if my girl just tell her girls she had sex?
I like a lil bit of stank.
A very hot day of work is not 'little' though.
Even if you arent the side chick…he isnt into you. He could care less if you hang out. Stop initiating any communication for a week or 2 and see how badly he actually wants you in his life.
Oh girl cmon where are your standards?! It’s been 3 dates and you’re swooning over his words but choosing to ignore his actions. Why? How does that benefit you at all?
You see that he is constantly on his phone and doesn’t pay attention to you. What about you exactly is he fantasizing about because I’m failing to see how he could know you at all when he isn’t even paying attention to you. Are you so easily swayed by pretty words that you’re willing to ignore the glaring red flag is he waving in front of your face? HE is the one too distracted to see around him, not you. Don’t blind yourself by your feelings so much that you actively choose to ignore what is right in front of your face.
You should feel extremely guilty about trash cheating on your partner. Are you trying to play stupid? One should let some other guy do stuff after a breakup. Not while thinking about breaking up and still in said relationship. You emotionally cheated with the other guy and then physically cheated because you wanted to see what else was out there. Throwing a buzzword in there is gross. People who care about their partners do this after breaking up, not to their partners, and then continue to lie and keep secrets.
Your partner deserves to know the truth, so that he can be the one to decide if he wants to stay with a disrespectful cheater.
Wtf is wrong with you? Just have hook ups if the only thing appealing about being a boyfriend is to fuck. And if he has an issue, silent treatment is a disgusting thing for any person, man or woman, to do. Completely immature behavior.