I think the issue here is that she should be a priority for NYE, not your friends. I'd have expected you to tell your friends you and I are now able to be together at that time. And makes plans with me.
You refused her the experience of a nice meal *with* her partner, celebrating her achievements, which she was more than in a position to contribute to, through nothing but misplaced pride.
You seem to think that her sitting there eating while you ate nothing would be the same experience as you both eating and celebrating. It isn't. It's embarrassing and awkward. You prevented her from having a good experience through pride.
I think if he only lives 9 miles away, he can easily go and check on his home several times a week while they have a “trial run”. They have only been together for a year, it’s crazy for him to give up his home completely at this stage. It would suck if he got renters in his house and then two months later realized that living together doesn’t work.
Sorry but you're allowing yourself to be treated like this. His family not liking you is the least of your worries. He has no job, plays video games all day every day and doesn't contribute to the house?!? And you're ok with that? Fine if you are but don't be surprised when he acts selfish and doesn't care.
If you are in multiple abusive relationships, it might be wise to look into therapy. Particularly, if you have a parent who was abusive. Parents who are abusive to the other parent count, too.
About past relationships, he has been insecure about mine as mine was like 2 years long, guy was great until he was not. He stopped putting efforts in the end and it crashed and burnt even after I tried my best to make it work. So he thinks emotionally my ex knew how to take care of me better. And about his past relationship, I think they had it better physically. And I have been very insecure about that one part.
Is…is that an insult? Is eugenics really a bad thing?
You absolutely evil cretin of a “man”
I think the issue here is that she should be a priority for NYE, not your friends. I'd have expected you to tell your friends you and I are now able to be together at that time. And makes plans with me.
You refused her the experience of a nice meal *with* her partner, celebrating her achievements, which she was more than in a position to contribute to, through nothing but misplaced pride.
You seem to think that her sitting there eating while you ate nothing would be the same experience as you both eating and celebrating. It isn't. It's embarrassing and awkward. You prevented her from having a good experience through pride.
It really isn't the flex you think it is.
I think if he only lives 9 miles away, he can easily go and check on his home several times a week while they have a “trial run”. They have only been together for a year, it’s crazy for him to give up his home completely at this stage. It would suck if he got renters in his house and then two months later realized that living together doesn’t work.
Sorry but you're allowing yourself to be treated like this. His family not liking you is the least of your worries. He has no job, plays video games all day every day and doesn't contribute to the house?!? And you're ok with that? Fine if you are but don't be surprised when he acts selfish and doesn't care.
My problem is whether I should and could forgive her or not
It's not a problem. Ask yourself do you enjoy this feeling. If you do, OK.
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It was her first time cheating
Once a cheater, always a cheater. Regardless of sex.
Exactly what I said.
If you are in multiple abusive relationships, it might be wise to look into therapy. Particularly, if you have a parent who was abusive. Parents who are abusive to the other parent count, too.
I personally wouldn't mind having kids but I also don't want to force anyone to have a kid with me.
She's unstable. You need to leave. She doesnt seem to care what you want.
About past relationships, he has been insecure about mine as mine was like 2 years long, guy was great until he was not. He stopped putting efforts in the end and it crashed and burnt even after I tried my best to make it work. So he thinks emotionally my ex knew how to take care of me better. And about his past relationship, I think they had it better physically. And I have been very insecure about that one part.