Yep, you now have child porn on your phone, and lovely tech giants know it ? hence why no one should be doing shit like this. Reason five thousand why no one should be sending nor asking for this. But if this(asking and talking in reddit) is what it takes to stop it hey. So be it.
Relationship is totally not doomed, but there is a boundary issue that's interfering with the quality of life for you both.
I don't know why your GF feels she has to moderate your experiences, but the pressure she feels to do so is real even if you have assured her she does not. Can you ask her, in a caring and gentle way, to explain to you what makes her feel that she has to do that?
Perhaps she was raised in a codependent / invalidating household where she was made to feel responsible for a parent's mood. Maybe she had an an abusive ex who would punish her for things she was not responsible for. That can train you to try to manage other people. If that's the case, there are ways to re-establish healthy boundaries you can learn through self-help or therapy.
Or maybe it's something about you. If you are quiet and nonreactive, maybe she feels unable to enjoy whatever is going on because your blankness or nonparticipation make her feel as if she is forcing you to endure something you would not choose if she didn't make you. Does that sound like you? If so, it might be a good idea not to sit there like a bump on a log. Participate, react, help her enjoy her experience. She's not dating you so she can ignore your reactions and talk to other people who are showing signs of life.
Or maybe it's a combination of things, or something else entirely.
I have an eight-year-old daughter from a previous marriage whom my wife doesn't like because she believes that my ex-wife is using her as a weapon to destroy my current marriage.
Get a divorce. You are going to regret doing this to your daughter. Find someone who genuinely likes your kid! FFS!
A really good friend of mine found her now husband on Craiglist because she was looking for a roommate and they ended up hitting it off.
Whats life with out a little adventure?
He’s doing too much for someone he has no reason to feel reasonable for. Acting like she’s his fucking kid- while loving the attention. Pathetic.
Yep, you now have child porn on your phone, and lovely tech giants know it ? hence why no one should be doing shit like this. Reason five thousand why no one should be sending nor asking for this. But if this(asking and talking in reddit) is what it takes to stop it hey. So be it.
I mean you said you wouldn’t mind.
You made this bed now lie in it.
You forgot the age gap of 9 years in the red flag list.
What you did is called emotional blackmail, I think
Relationship is totally not doomed, but there is a boundary issue that's interfering with the quality of life for you both.
I don't know why your GF feels she has to moderate your experiences, but the pressure she feels to do so is real even if you have assured her she does not. Can you ask her, in a caring and gentle way, to explain to you what makes her feel that she has to do that?
Perhaps she was raised in a codependent / invalidating household where she was made to feel responsible for a parent's mood. Maybe she had an an abusive ex who would punish her for things she was not responsible for. That can train you to try to manage other people. If that's the case, there are ways to re-establish healthy boundaries you can learn through self-help or therapy.
Or maybe it's something about you. If you are quiet and nonreactive, maybe she feels unable to enjoy whatever is going on because your blankness or nonparticipation make her feel as if she is forcing you to endure something you would not choose if she didn't make you. Does that sound like you? If so, it might be a good idea not to sit there like a bump on a log. Participate, react, help her enjoy her experience. She's not dating you so she can ignore your reactions and talk to other people who are showing signs of life.
Or maybe it's a combination of things, or something else entirely.
Move along. Sounds like you’re not even that invested anyways.
I have an eight-year-old daughter from a previous marriage whom my wife doesn't like because she believes that my ex-wife is using her as a weapon to destroy my current marriage.
Get a divorce. You are going to regret doing this to your daughter. Find someone who genuinely likes your kid! FFS!
We split the household chores and childcare up.