At first I thought this was a mistake an angsty teenager made, then I went back and saw the ages. I don't think there's any coming back from this, you did this when you were in your late twenties and definitely knew better. Sometimes you just have to accept that you did something so wrong that you can't make up for it.
Is there money involved? If there is then this is a major event in your lives and absolutely needs to be discussed between you.
So therefore you were deliberately excluded and he knew that and therefore didn't tell you so you wouldn't blow up before the meeting.
That does not say “honesty, trust, communication, respect” to me as regards your relationship.
He knew you would be upset.
On the surface your husband is saying “something like boss didn't want a couple” but I am not buying that one. I would want a calm sit down talk with the boss about this choice, is it a managment one and you are not management? Or if you are then what do they think the consequences to the business are if a couple takes over and say eventually splits? Because that could be covered by some legal work beforehand.
I would get more than just your husbands take on the reasons before you make a final decision but I would still update my CV and look elsewhere even if just for the boost in confidence. They knew what this would look like to you, they are not stupid. Being valued and respected is very important and you could have been involved without being secretive about it. That would have been the adult way to do this. It isn't like they were going to keep it a secret going forward.
Schedule a meeting with the boss, have someone with you and record it. Set an agenda beforehand, be super professional about where they see your role going forward with these four people as owners. Approach it as a professional meeting for you to know where you stand now that you have been removed from the planning. Like who would you report to etc.
Once you have all the facts you will know exactly where you stand and the next step is up to you.
I wouldn't even bother trying to make him feel remorse, because he won't. You can just be cold about it. Send the screenshots of his profile and write something like, “We're done. It's not up for debate. I am getting tested and I expect you to pay the bill.”
Yep, but he can't and frankly this type of situation is not really a relationship. He doesnt want one, he just has feelings….Let him go, not worth it. He never made his relationship a priority or even claimed it. There is nothing to work out. It is just over.
Uh oh, poor little man baby got upset when he was called out.
All you did was list things that maintain your household and they need to get done (other than the bread, so woopie for you, you make bread).
You literally proved the point the other user and I were trying to make, so thank you.
HELPING MAINTAINING YOUR HOME AND FAMILY IS WHAT YOUR SUPPOSED TO DO. YOU’RE NOT DOING ANYTHING SPECIAL OR GOING ABOVE AND BEYOND.
There, I made it nice and big. Hopefully it’ll get through your thick skull now.
You are not as mature as you think you are.
How unfortunate, even when it's spelled out to you and thousands of people all agree you can't set aside your own self importance.
At first I thought this was a mistake an angsty teenager made, then I went back and saw the ages. I don't think there's any coming back from this, you did this when you were in your late twenties and definitely knew better. Sometimes you just have to accept that you did something so wrong that you can't make up for it.
Is there money involved? If there is then this is a major event in your lives and absolutely needs to be discussed between you.
So therefore you were deliberately excluded and he knew that and therefore didn't tell you so you wouldn't blow up before the meeting.
That does not say “honesty, trust, communication, respect” to me as regards your relationship.
He knew you would be upset.
On the surface your husband is saying “something like boss didn't want a couple” but I am not buying that one. I would want a calm sit down talk with the boss about this choice, is it a managment one and you are not management? Or if you are then what do they think the consequences to the business are if a couple takes over and say eventually splits? Because that could be covered by some legal work beforehand.
I would get more than just your husbands take on the reasons before you make a final decision but I would still update my CV and look elsewhere even if just for the boost in confidence. They knew what this would look like to you, they are not stupid. Being valued and respected is very important and you could have been involved without being secretive about it. That would have been the adult way to do this. It isn't like they were going to keep it a secret going forward.
Schedule a meeting with the boss, have someone with you and record it. Set an agenda beforehand, be super professional about where they see your role going forward with these four people as owners. Approach it as a professional meeting for you to know where you stand now that you have been removed from the planning. Like who would you report to etc.
Once you have all the facts you will know exactly where you stand and the next step is up to you.
He had a bad experience with alcohol but he didn't stop doing it. It is perfectly possible to be an alcoholic on just beer.
The D must be phenomenal. That’s the only reason i can see for you staying this long.
I wouldn't even bother trying to make him feel remorse, because he won't. You can just be cold about it. Send the screenshots of his profile and write something like, “We're done. It's not up for debate. I am getting tested and I expect you to pay the bill.”
Get solid evidence first
I know. It just makes me sad. But I guess this is the final push to completely move on.
Yep, but he can't and frankly this type of situation is not really a relationship. He doesnt want one, he just has feelings….Let him go, not worth it. He never made his relationship a priority or even claimed it. There is nothing to work out. It is just over.