It's a silly kind of agreement, because you never know. It's still possible, though, that you'll get back together, because you seem fond of one another.
Insist that if he doesn’t want children that he use a condom or get vasectomy. And if he is such a weasel to tell you that in the first place I would be reviewing my relationship while in therapy.
He is 100% going to do it again. He's probably already done it. If you need to be in a relationship with someone who doesn't watch porn, this isn't the guy for you. Hell, MOST guys aren't the guy for you. I don't think I know any men who don't watch porn at least occasionally.
He will also lie to you about it. You've given him no motivation to tell you the truth about it, given the way you react when you find out he's been watching porn. Why would he watch porn and then tell you about it?
I agree it's a problem that he's asking to watch porn during sex. That's not a good sign. Possibly indicates a dependence on porn. Not sure how to solve this one.
As far as the fact that the girls in the porn look nothing like you, that makes total sense. Men generally need some sexual variety to stay interested (Google the Coolidge Effect). He doesn't need to look at porn with women like you because he literally already has you.
I would say stingy y’all are supposed to be building/sharing a life together and he claims that he loves giving gifts but has like 90 different fucking conditions on a gift that he’s giving his future wife? We should not have to explain to men that other people have feelings and like things and that you should let them enjoy those things if you love them and be happy to see them enjoy. Come on now we’re not all kindergarten teachers nor should all of us have to be. He’s stingy and he’s an asshole and I think you don’t see it because you’re too close/a kindergarten teacher. as for me, my man of a year will be coming with me to a museum this weekend because I’m really excited about an exhibit even though he couldn’t care less and sometimes I eat tacos with him five times a week because he fucking loves them and I like seeing him happy. Just know you deserve that.
Ditto what everyone else is saying – walk away. You deserve to be treated better than that, it's emotional blackmail and it's not fair on you.
It's a silly kind of agreement, because you never know. It's still possible, though, that you'll get back together, because you seem fond of one another.
Yeah no.. shes probably embarrassed/ upset by her potential infertility and is using you as an excuse. Also, she might just want attention.
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Insist that if he doesn’t want children that he use a condom or get vasectomy. And if he is such a weasel to tell you that in the first place I would be reviewing my relationship while in therapy.
This insecurity will be a constant theme with her.
You don’t have to choose it. It will wear you out.
I'm sorry this happened and you absolutely have every right to be angry!
Did anyone else do the math? Married for 10 years and the new gf is 26?? That would make her 16 when they knew each other before…
Playing dumb power games and withholding sex you actually want is the fastest way to kill a relationship.
Stop it.
If you don’t like his possessive energy then have an adult conversation about it.
He is 100% going to do it again. He's probably already done it. If you need to be in a relationship with someone who doesn't watch porn, this isn't the guy for you. Hell, MOST guys aren't the guy for you. I don't think I know any men who don't watch porn at least occasionally.
He will also lie to you about it. You've given him no motivation to tell you the truth about it, given the way you react when you find out he's been watching porn. Why would he watch porn and then tell you about it?
I agree it's a problem that he's asking to watch porn during sex. That's not a good sign. Possibly indicates a dependence on porn. Not sure how to solve this one.
As far as the fact that the girls in the porn look nothing like you, that makes total sense. Men generally need some sexual variety to stay interested (Google the Coolidge Effect). He doesn't need to look at porn with women like you because he literally already has you.
not at all. whenever he gets upset or frustrated he walks into a different room and cools down, never once has he ever thrown anything until today
I'd recommend communication.
Could she be cheating? Sure. Could she be planning to take surprise sexy pictures to get you through the time she is away? Also sure.
How to know? Talk. To. Her. If she's cheating, she'll lie and I'm sure after a decade together you could tell.
I would say stingy y’all are supposed to be building/sharing a life together and he claims that he loves giving gifts but has like 90 different fucking conditions on a gift that he’s giving his future wife? We should not have to explain to men that other people have feelings and like things and that you should let them enjoy those things if you love them and be happy to see them enjoy. Come on now we’re not all kindergarten teachers nor should all of us have to be. He’s stingy and he’s an asshole and I think you don’t see it because you’re too close/a kindergarten teacher. as for me, my man of a year will be coming with me to a museum this weekend because I’m really excited about an exhibit even though he couldn’t care less and sometimes I eat tacos with him five times a week because he fucking loves them and I like seeing him happy. Just know you deserve that.