Uh. As somebody who has lost people who I was VERY close to, friends and family, I would have loved if a friend had made me a week's worth of delicious food. When you're grieving, it's nude to make yourself eat, much less cook. Not having to think about it makes it that much easier.
Also? Just because you did something you're good at that helped somebody doesn't mean you were doing it for attention. And it's normal to be proud of your skills. It's normal for people to thank and compliment food favors.
Your boyfriend is the weird one. You used your skills to help a friend in need. It was out of love, and it's an excellent way to show support. Your boyfriend is jealous of the positive attention you get or something. The fact that he thinks you have an ulterior motives is gross. Is that how he feels when you do something nice for him? For anybody? It shows a lack of trust and respect IMO.
Again, what if they are on a medication, such as some bipolar/epilepsy meds that cause drastic weight gain. For that person, that med is helping. So you have to decide what your value system is and are you actually capable of living that person no matter what. If you’re not, be honest.
I think you paying isn’t the issue, it’s that you don’t feel appreciated. You mentioned small gifts and flowers – have you told him that you’d love to get those occasionally? That little small “thinking of you!” gifts mean a lot? Communicate ways that would make you feel appreciated and loved. If he doesn’t do them anyway, well, that’s more of the issue tbh. That’s an imbalance – you try to take care of him and make him feel loved, and whether he does the same or not.
No, you are “questioning” as a rape apologist would.
If you don’t have anything to hide, what’s the problem exactly?
Scorch earth this shit and never speak of him again
Please do not mistake “love” for compatibility or a healthy relationship
Uh. As somebody who has lost people who I was VERY close to, friends and family, I would have loved if a friend had made me a week's worth of delicious food. When you're grieving, it's nude to make yourself eat, much less cook. Not having to think about it makes it that much easier.
Also? Just because you did something you're good at that helped somebody doesn't mean you were doing it for attention. And it's normal to be proud of your skills. It's normal for people to thank and compliment food favors.
Your boyfriend is the weird one. You used your skills to help a friend in need. It was out of love, and it's an excellent way to show support. Your boyfriend is jealous of the positive attention you get or something. The fact that he thinks you have an ulterior motives is gross. Is that how he feels when you do something nice for him? For anybody? It shows a lack of trust and respect IMO.
Again, what if they are on a medication, such as some bipolar/epilepsy meds that cause drastic weight gain. For that person, that med is helping. So you have to decide what your value system is and are you actually capable of living that person no matter what. If you’re not, be honest.
pay the grand and let it go.
I think you paying isn’t the issue, it’s that you don’t feel appreciated. You mentioned small gifts and flowers – have you told him that you’d love to get those occasionally? That little small “thinking of you!” gifts mean a lot? Communicate ways that would make you feel appreciated and loved. If he doesn’t do them anyway, well, that’s more of the issue tbh. That’s an imbalance – you try to take care of him and make him feel loved, and whether he does the same or not.
Move on.
There is no scenario where she doesn't lose trust in you for violating her privacy and her space to think.
This is a trap, right? For OP? I feel like it's a trap.
OP, even if it's a trap you should tell her that you read her journal and hope (pray) that she forgives you. That's a huge violation.