His being drunk does not negate any of his actions. Not only did he cheat but he sexually assaulted one girl and sexually harassed another. They're his employees. In doing what he did, he not only betrayed your relationship and took advantage of women who were also drunk, he opened himself up to legal ramifications. Big ones.
That speaks volumes about who he is. Drunk or not, he is not for you. Not if you want a relationship free from infidelity and based in trust.
From all angles, this is not a wagon you should hitch your horse to. It's best to save yourself the inevitable heartache of being cheated on throughout a marriage by not marrying this individual in the first place.
If not, remind him of the agreement. Sit down and ask him what it’s going to take for him to step up. Be specific about what you expect from him. “Babe, I want to be sure we are aligned on expectations around the house.” And then go Through the list of shit that needs to happen and ask him which he’s going to take on.
It sounds like he was genuinely afraid he’d lose you if he told you he’d lost his job, and he thought he had things under control when he found a new job, and when he realized that wasn’t going to work he decided to come clean. That much of it doesn’t seem like a red flag to me. But the part I mentioned in my first comment is problematic to say the least.
Why don’t you start saying things to him too to make him feel insecure? Then, dump his ass
In Vino Veritas.
His being drunk does not negate any of his actions. Not only did he cheat but he sexually assaulted one girl and sexually harassed another. They're his employees. In doing what he did, he not only betrayed your relationship and took advantage of women who were also drunk, he opened himself up to legal ramifications. Big ones.
That speaks volumes about who he is. Drunk or not, he is not for you. Not if you want a relationship free from infidelity and based in trust.
From all angles, this is not a wagon you should hitch your horse to. It's best to save yourself the inevitable heartache of being cheated on throughout a marriage by not marrying this individual in the first place.
This x1000
Is couples counseling an option?
If not, remind him of the agreement. Sit down and ask him what it’s going to take for him to step up. Be specific about what you expect from him. “Babe, I want to be sure we are aligned on expectations around the house.” And then go Through the list of shit that needs to happen and ask him which he’s going to take on.
Don’t marry him if this isn’t resolved.
It sounds like he was genuinely afraid he’d lose you if he told you he’d lost his job, and he thought he had things under control when he found a new job, and when he realized that wasn’t going to work he decided to come clean. That much of it doesn’t seem like a red flag to me. But the part I mentioned in my first comment is problematic to say the least.