It's not that easy. Trust me, I think about it. Every. Day. It's not like my kids are in any danger. I'm here for them. Even so, if I left and got a divorce, it's not like I have physical evidence that she got fingered by her brother. Courts would probably side with the mother. Then I wouldn't be here for them, I would probably lose my house, … But really I wouldn't get to see my kids every night after I get home from work. They are the only joy I have anymore.
Honestly he might not even be a father – not until a paternity test says he is. I'd suggest therapy for both of you and a lot of discussions about what you both want
And what happens when you become her man…. And she seeks greener pastures?
I hope so… I hate meeting new people at this point & she’s honestly great
You can’t “motivate her.” She has to be motivated to do it herself.
Also, has her medical situation changed since living together? For example, birth control hormones definitely affect her weight.
Is she working more? New job?
You need to be very aware there are only so many hours in a day and women’s bodies can work against them getting any kind of regular exercise.
Tune in to her.
admit to a minor crime as cover for the larger crime.
It's not that easy. Trust me, I think about it. Every. Day. It's not like my kids are in any danger. I'm here for them. Even so, if I left and got a divorce, it's not like I have physical evidence that she got fingered by her brother. Courts would probably side with the mother. Then I wouldn't be here for them, I would probably lose my house, … But really I wouldn't get to see my kids every night after I get home from work. They are the only joy I have anymore.
Also don’t forget if you really try to leave you might also be upgraded to the VIP option: threatening his life and well-being if you don’t come back.
Black Horseman covers that with a great saying with Rose coloured glasses and all the flags being red.
Honestly he might not even be a father – not until a paternity test says he is. I'd suggest therapy for both of you and a lot of discussions about what you both want
She will manipulate back into her web. As you have seen, she is really good at keeping you in the dark.