And theyve never met in person. Why do people do this? How do people do this? Damn, the number of posts here would fall off pretty quick if everyone “in a relationship” with someone they've never met just stopped. These folk don't need relationship advice, they need to learn to meet real people from the world around them. Even if they meet live first, existing as an live only relationship is crazy sauce. It's like HER.
I want to be clear here, I have no desire to cheat and neither am I unsatisfied or unhappy.
So, you ARE unhappy, and it is ok to admit that. It doesn't mean you need to divorce. Once you realize and admit it to yourself you can have an open and honest conversation with your husband and work together to fix it.
You stated earlier that your intimacy has taken a hit since your twins were born it is understandable. However, if you are feeling it then he is feeling it. Where you may have enjoyed the compliments and (in that moment) had the strength to resist, he may not.
You two need to talk about this and come up with a plan. Get grandparents, friends, or anyone to watch your kids every once in a while so that the two of you can go on a date. If that is not possible, and your twins go to daycare, both of you need to take a day off once in a while and have a day date.
This should be an eye opener for you. Use it to your advantage rather than having your marriage end in divorce later.
Can only add to this great advice…get the ring and anything else.valuable back from her ASAP
You're already cheating on your girlfriend.
And theyve never met in person. Why do people do this? How do people do this? Damn, the number of posts here would fall off pretty quick if everyone “in a relationship” with someone they've never met just stopped. These folk don't need relationship advice, they need to learn to meet real people from the world around them. Even if they meet live first, existing as an live only relationship is crazy sauce. It's like HER.
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I want to be clear here, I have no desire to cheat and neither am I unsatisfied or unhappy.
So, you ARE unhappy, and it is ok to admit that. It doesn't mean you need to divorce. Once you realize and admit it to yourself you can have an open and honest conversation with your husband and work together to fix it.
You stated earlier that your intimacy has taken a hit since your twins were born it is understandable. However, if you are feeling it then he is feeling it. Where you may have enjoyed the compliments and (in that moment) had the strength to resist, he may not.
You two need to talk about this and come up with a plan. Get grandparents, friends, or anyone to watch your kids every once in a while so that the two of you can go on a date. If that is not possible, and your twins go to daycare, both of you need to take a day off once in a while and have a day date.
This should be an eye opener for you. Use it to your advantage rather than having your marriage end in divorce later.