It seems like this should have been addressed before marriage. This is a really big deal. This is at least an 18 year commitment if not longer based on possible complications or health issues that could occur. At 35 these are real possibilities even if not common. (Travel and house projects don't really compare.)
I wish I could give you advice, but this is tough. If kids are a deal breaker for you, it's time to let her know now.
You enforced a boundary and she is trying to apologize.
Sucks that she puts so much energy into another person and not your relationship.
You sure she isn't just emotionally cheating? Time to start digging.
the baby is less than 2 weeks old, how often is she expecting to see them? she definitely sounds anxious.
It seems like this should have been addressed before marriage. This is a really big deal. This is at least an 18 year commitment if not longer based on possible complications or health issues that could occur. At 35 these are real possibilities even if not common. (Travel and house projects don't really compare.)
I wish I could give you advice, but this is tough. If kids are a deal breaker for you, it's time to let her know now.