God this is childish. Just break up. He clearly would cheat and this has broken your trust but just to clarify if you’re at the point where you’ve rationalized setting your SO up? It’s time to leave.
Not only is he okay with someone discussing having casual sex with you, and not only is he acting incredulous that someone else is choosing to have sex with you, but he is commenting on your body after being asked not to and he's doing it in a disrespectful way. I would consider distancing from this friend.
Wanting alone time shouldn't be an issue in most relationships but the more extreme the need is the less likely it will be to find someone who will be ok with that long term. The real problem is that two people who want lots of alone time rarely ends up together very long as they tend to drift apart.
I wish kids got taught this in school. Abuse works BECAUSE of the periods where they're not actively abusing you. Someone can be the loveliest, nicest, most caring person in between. The abuse is still abuse.
I mean, he could be, but he could just also be telling you the truth?
What type of worktrip was it? Was he meeting clients and wanted to make sure he looks his best to impress them and representer his company well? If I was traveling to be one of two representatives of my company, I would be conserned about looking smart and good too, to give a good impression to the clients. Is this mindset really uncommon enough that people see it as red flags for cheating?
Accepting free accomodations in a proper bed, rather than a hotel bed I would have to pay for myself, honestly sounds like a great deal after staying in hotels for a while. And it sounds weird to me that she would invite an affair partner into her familys home, where they surely are very well aware that she is married.
Why do you think you assume/suspect the worst here? Have he been acting weird before, cheated before, made uncomfortable comments about her that gave you the ick? I'm not saying either or, because we cant know any more than you do, so I'm more so curious as to why you think you went to cheating instead of more innocent reasons.
You have been dating for 5 months and already broke his spirit. It's supposed to be the honeymoon phase, the happiest, easiest time in a relationship. Instead it sounds like you bait-and-switched on him. He thought he landed a nice new relationship and then you turned out to be a basket case. He broke up with you and you basically guilted him for hours until he said whatever he could say to get the fuck away from you. It's over. In your next relationship, don't substitute mental issues for having an interesting personality.
Yes, but even in thosoe few states that have common law marriage, you need to do several specific things, like telling people you are married, filing taxes as married, etc. Its not a case of “you lived together? Gothcha! You are married”
What informed decision did I not let him make here? I would have kept it, even if I knew it was his, and even if we had been in a committed relationship. The only decision he didn't get to make was to potentially be angry about my decision as well as the what if's and emotional part of it.
Also, your last comment is just disgusting. Get it together.
Has he ever been diagnosed for adhd? A Person close to me has similar stimming habits and has adhd. Also I kicked my habit when I chipped a tooth. I’m sure there’s lots of great pictures of people who have done that.
Your husband is using the fact that he makes more money than; you to push you into a tough spot. He’s jealous of the time you are spending with your friends and with your business that he’s refusing to pay his share, forcing you too, which I. Turn causes you to not hav3 time to do the things you love. His behavior is very manipulative and controlling.
He’s trying to isolate you from all of the people snd things that give you independence. This isn’t temporary. His insecurities are his problem. He is who he is, but this is abusive and potentially dangerous behavior. You really need to look at your relationship and see all the red flags and get out or at least make a plan. Don’t give up your business, your family and friends and your overall independence for anyone.
Yeah, I don’t know why it freaks me out, because I don’t even mind if my partner meets with his old crushes. I think it’s something in the way I was raised (strict religious parents). Thank you for the advice, it made me feel a lot better.
i know..its naked because theres so many positives about her and our relationship too tho. id like to just prove myself wrong or right about it and move on and idk how to go about that besides like going through her phone which i cant even get into
Wow thank you. I have realised quite how manipulated I have been from the comments on this thread. Very grateful for the wake-up call for for you taking the time to comment ?
You are over 25 and he is not yet 40. Looks ok.
leave her she’s abusive. please get out before this violence escalates even more.
Good question….is she planning a last hurrah? Very selfish by the bride to be.
Absolutely! I’d be wondering if she slid into his DMs, or was wishing he was single so he could hook up again…. It would be the worst!
This and your other comments suggests her life revolves around food.
I hate saying this, but at this rate she will be completely bed ridden very soon. That means her lack of hygiene will make her that much more sick.
Can she leave the trailer? Even a short walk is better than nothing.
God this is childish. Just break up. He clearly would cheat and this has broken your trust but just to clarify if you’re at the point where you’ve rationalized setting your SO up? It’s time to leave.
100%
Not only is he okay with someone discussing having casual sex with you, and not only is he acting incredulous that someone else is choosing to have sex with you, but he is commenting on your body after being asked not to and he's doing it in a disrespectful way. I would consider distancing from this friend.
This is it OP
Thank you.
Wanting alone time shouldn't be an issue in most relationships but the more extreme the need is the less likely it will be to find someone who will be ok with that long term. The real problem is that two people who want lots of alone time rarely ends up together very long as they tend to drift apart.
I wish kids got taught this in school. Abuse works BECAUSE of the periods where they're not actively abusing you. Someone can be the loveliest, nicest, most caring person in between. The abuse is still abuse.
I mean, he could be, but he could just also be telling you the truth?
What type of worktrip was it? Was he meeting clients and wanted to make sure he looks his best to impress them and representer his company well? If I was traveling to be one of two representatives of my company, I would be conserned about looking smart and good too, to give a good impression to the clients. Is this mindset really uncommon enough that people see it as red flags for cheating?
Accepting free accomodations in a proper bed, rather than a hotel bed I would have to pay for myself, honestly sounds like a great deal after staying in hotels for a while. And it sounds weird to me that she would invite an affair partner into her familys home, where they surely are very well aware that she is married.
Why do you think you assume/suspect the worst here? Have he been acting weird before, cheated before, made uncomfortable comments about her that gave you the ick? I'm not saying either or, because we cant know any more than you do, so I'm more so curious as to why you think you went to cheating instead of more innocent reasons.
You have been dating for 5 months and already broke his spirit. It's supposed to be the honeymoon phase, the happiest, easiest time in a relationship. Instead it sounds like you bait-and-switched on him. He thought he landed a nice new relationship and then you turned out to be a basket case. He broke up with you and you basically guilted him for hours until he said whatever he could say to get the fuck away from you. It's over. In your next relationship, don't substitute mental issues for having an interesting personality.
Yes, but even in thosoe few states that have common law marriage, you need to do several specific things, like telling people you are married, filing taxes as married, etc. Its not a case of “you lived together? Gothcha! You are married”
What informed decision did I not let him make here? I would have kept it, even if I knew it was his, and even if we had been in a committed relationship. The only decision he didn't get to make was to potentially be angry about my decision as well as the what if's and emotional part of it.
Also, your last comment is just disgusting. Get it together.
Still gross.
Better than a BF
At least you didn't do what I did when I was younger. Kept seeing a woman even after I knew she was married. ?
Nah no need. Block, no response needed and move on.
But you aren't, yet he thinks you are.
Has he ever been diagnosed for adhd? A Person close to me has similar stimming habits and has adhd. Also I kicked my habit when I chipped a tooth. I’m sure there’s lots of great pictures of people who have done that.
Okay so if he reports it stolen what will happen
Your husband is using the fact that he makes more money than; you to push you into a tough spot. He’s jealous of the time you are spending with your friends and with your business that he’s refusing to pay his share, forcing you too, which I. Turn causes you to not hav3 time to do the things you love. His behavior is very manipulative and controlling.
He’s trying to isolate you from all of the people snd things that give you independence. This isn’t temporary. His insecurities are his problem. He is who he is, but this is abusive and potentially dangerous behavior. You really need to look at your relationship and see all the red flags and get out or at least make a plan. Don’t give up your business, your family and friends and your overall independence for anyone.
Call the cops if he doesn’t let you leave, you need an escape plan
Yeah, I don’t know why it freaks me out, because I don’t even mind if my partner meets with his old crushes. I think it’s something in the way I was raised (strict religious parents). Thank you for the advice, it made me feel a lot better.
Emotional cheating is still a real thing and can lead to more.
If you have doubts, get tested for std's. Its your life.
You don’t accidentally cheat, that’s an on purpose thing with lots of opportunities to not do it
You call it an accident because then you feel less guilty. It’s still not an accident.
i know..its naked because theres so many positives about her and our relationship too tho. id like to just prove myself wrong or right about it and move on and idk how to go about that besides like going through her phone which i cant even get into
He sounds pretty immature. I’m sure you could find someone who likes to show affection
Typically when somebody says something that absurd, they always try to cover with. It’s a joke when I get slapped in the face for what they said.
That’s a great point. Thank you.
Wow thank you. I have realised quite how manipulated I have been from the comments on this thread. Very grateful for the wake-up call for for you taking the time to comment ?