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Girl, he is an emotional, abusive maniac, wtf is it going to take for you to finally wise up and leave his ass, you going to wait until he breaks your nose, a bone, kills a cat or other things that you love, you can't leave him once you're dead you know.
The pressure is to bring out a dialog with him in order to try to get her honeymoon. She will not get that chance again and The pressure is necessary because he's giving her bs excuses about not going back to the original plan.
She deserves a real answer instead of what her husband is giving as an excuse. The only way to get that is to talk. If she stays firm is talking, they might find a solution that works with both. She should not have to sacrifice the honeymoon she wanted over bs excuses. If that's expected of her, she deserves the real reason. She already knows his excuse is bs.
Absolutely not. You’ve already set the tone for this relationship and it’s not going to change unless both of you put in some serious work. Chances are at least one of you won’t. Just move on.
When people comment on me playing video games I just ask them if they'd prefer me to go sit in a pub/bar for hours like a lot of people do as a “hobbie/interest”.
Don't get me wrong I don't have an issue with people doing that but if I'm just chilling not bothering anyone or spending money I don't see how you can have an issue with playing games.
She shouldn’t be a mother during active addiction, but that ship has sailed. Have you been to a specialist together where she can be talked through the potential outcomes of smoking on a foetus? Maybe someone showing her the future is a start. Everything from cleft lip to asthma to childhood cancer risk is higher in babies exposed to smoke in utero, I’m sure she doesn’t want that, but maybe she just thinks of this as a pregnancy right now, instead of a human who will face a harder life thanks to her.
19 and 20 is very young to move in together. Why not on-line with a gf or 2 for a couple years before moving in with your bf?
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Girl, he is an emotional, abusive maniac, wtf is it going to take for you to finally wise up and leave his ass, you going to wait until he breaks your nose, a bone, kills a cat or other things that you love, you can't leave him once you're dead you know.
He can swear all he wants, he can’t beat science. He clearly cheated.
She’s upset because the BIL made fun of her not being the #1 fan anymore
Dude's ten years older than you and he's an abusive little schmuck. FYI if someone loves you- this is how that conversation should go:
Person A: Please don't joke about that, it really hurts my feelings
Person B: I'm sorry, I didn't mean to hurt you. I'll stop.
Hurting someone's feelings, disrespecting them if they ask you to stop, then getting ANGRY at them, then SILENT TREATMENT- No.
Don't reach out or apologize (for what?) and when or if he does let him know it's over. You can do so much better.
Send it. Even if you don't get back together, you still need to co-parent. You need to attempt to mend the bridge.
The pressure is to bring out a dialog with him in order to try to get her honeymoon. She will not get that chance again and The pressure is necessary because he's giving her bs excuses about not going back to the original plan.
She deserves a real answer instead of what her husband is giving as an excuse. The only way to get that is to talk. If she stays firm is talking, they might find a solution that works with both. She should not have to sacrifice the honeymoon she wanted over bs excuses. If that's expected of her, she deserves the real reason. She already knows his excuse is bs.
But he’s mostly not an awful person.
A little bit abusive is 100% abusive.
Absolutely not. You’ve already set the tone for this relationship and it’s not going to change unless both of you put in some serious work. Chances are at least one of you won’t. Just move on.
This sounds toxic as fuck.
When people comment on me playing video games I just ask them if they'd prefer me to go sit in a pub/bar for hours like a lot of people do as a “hobbie/interest”.
Don't get me wrong I don't have an issue with people doing that but if I'm just chilling not bothering anyone or spending money I don't see how you can have an issue with playing games.
She shouldn’t be a mother during active addiction, but that ship has sailed. Have you been to a specialist together where she can be talked through the potential outcomes of smoking on a foetus? Maybe someone showing her the future is a start. Everything from cleft lip to asthma to childhood cancer risk is higher in babies exposed to smoke in utero, I’m sure she doesn’t want that, but maybe she just thinks of this as a pregnancy right now, instead of a human who will face a harder life thanks to her.
Yeah it was db to agree, but he is more dumb to want it in the first place for a mono marriage