There’s no way I see this conversation going well. Honestly this would be enough for me to want to nuke the entire relationship. Anyone who thinks stripping in front of another guy is acceptable isn’t someone I would want to date. The fact it’s your friend just makes it so much worse
I’d love to hear his logic because bars are full of dudes doing the same so….????
mostly alcoholics and guys looking to fuck…I have to assume that since we are talking about guys reasons that those reasons extend to women also, or why would you bring it up.
It has been confusing for me because he puts me and my job down but does it in a “joking” way so it almost feels like I'm overreacting if I get upset. For example, he is a doctor and I am a PA. We both work at the same hospital but doctors get special parking privileges. He'll smile and say “I'm a doctor so I get to park here, unlike you peasants” (peasants referring to me and my coworkers). It always feels like it's supposed to be a joke, but it's just not very funny to me like it is to him. But in more serious moments, he'll tell me what a great accomplishment it is that I'm a PA and got through the schooling, etc. So sometimes it feels like he respects me and thinks highly of me, but then other times it feels like he tries to make it known that I'm beneath him.
I know his past girlfriends all were around his age and left him pretty quickly. I'm wondering now if he also “joked” around with them this way and they left as soon as they saw the signs. He always told me they left for other reasons.
This is a great cautionary tale.
Fair enough. Honest reply, thanks.
There’s no way I see this conversation going well. Honestly this would be enough for me to want to nuke the entire relationship. Anyone who thinks stripping in front of another guy is acceptable isn’t someone I would want to date. The fact it’s your friend just makes it so much worse
Re home your boyfriend
I’d love to hear his logic because bars are full of dudes doing the same so….????
mostly alcoholics and guys looking to fuck…I have to assume that since we are talking about guys reasons that those reasons extend to women also, or why would you bring it up.
I really don’t know what you need to do, but I advise you to look into enmeshment trauma.
That last line may have just changed the course of my life.
… alright then
It has been confusing for me because he puts me and my job down but does it in a “joking” way so it almost feels like I'm overreacting if I get upset. For example, he is a doctor and I am a PA. We both work at the same hospital but doctors get special parking privileges. He'll smile and say “I'm a doctor so I get to park here, unlike you peasants” (peasants referring to me and my coworkers). It always feels like it's supposed to be a joke, but it's just not very funny to me like it is to him. But in more serious moments, he'll tell me what a great accomplishment it is that I'm a PA and got through the schooling, etc. So sometimes it feels like he respects me and thinks highly of me, but then other times it feels like he tries to make it known that I'm beneath him.
I know his past girlfriends all were around his age and left him pretty quickly. I'm wondering now if he also “joked” around with them this way and they left as soon as they saw the signs. He always told me they left for other reasons.