Did you ask him how he knows? Might seem obvious, but you need more info out of this guy. Whether he's lying to you or not, it's kind of put you in a conundrum.
I feel like you enabled her to have false hope of having two kids, and now she's in her 40s and realizing she was mistaken. Both of you messed up along the road…she should have made her wishes extremely clear and been positive you were both on the same page, and you should have committed to a plan (no kids, one kid, two kids) and stuck with it. Now it's almost too late for her to have a second child whether she does it with you or builds a new relationship from scratch.
Children are a lifestyle choice. If your preferences are different on this hugely significant decision, then you aren't compatible and never were.
I don't have a good answer, but nobody should be made to compromise on their very possible goals and now one of you will have to. I don't think there's any way you'll both be completely happy.
i mainly just feel guilty because I put him through the turmoil of a breakup just to come back and realize nothing changed. I’m not sure how to express it to him
Aw you fumbled the bag. She’s confident and seems well put together, she knows what she wants. She told you directly what she expects and will not accept, and you couldn’t hack it. Sucks for you, but somebody else will.
I think the best way to do this is when you’re in person – if that’s possible at all given the LDR.
Second to that, just asking about her, sparking curiosity and seeing if she wants to know anything about you etc…
Her being a virgin may mean she has very little experience with anything sexual, including masturbation. Tread slowly, respectfully, and see how you go.
What a fucking sludge bucket he is. Go get therapy, you've been raped and it doesn't even matter if the fucking sludge bucket slept with your sister, you have much bigger issues.
If you are in the US I hope you turn this pedo into the authorities and put him in jail where he belongs.
Did you ask him how he knows? Might seem obvious, but you need more info out of this guy. Whether he's lying to you or not, it's kind of put you in a conundrum.
I feel like you enabled her to have false hope of having two kids, and now she's in her 40s and realizing she was mistaken. Both of you messed up along the road…she should have made her wishes extremely clear and been positive you were both on the same page, and you should have committed to a plan (no kids, one kid, two kids) and stuck with it. Now it's almost too late for her to have a second child whether she does it with you or builds a new relationship from scratch.
Children are a lifestyle choice. If your preferences are different on this hugely significant decision, then you aren't compatible and never were.
I don't have a good answer, but nobody should be made to compromise on their very possible goals and now one of you will have to. I don't think there's any way you'll both be completely happy.
i mainly just feel guilty because I put him through the turmoil of a breakup just to come back and realize nothing changed. I’m not sure how to express it to him
Aw you fumbled the bag. She’s confident and seems well put together, she knows what she wants. She told you directly what she expects and will not accept, and you couldn’t hack it. Sucks for you, but somebody else will.
I think the best way to do this is when you’re in person – if that’s possible at all given the LDR.
Second to that, just asking about her, sparking curiosity and seeing if she wants to know anything about you etc…
Her being a virgin may mean she has very little experience with anything sexual, including masturbation. Tread slowly, respectfully, and see how you go.
What a fucking sludge bucket he is. Go get therapy, you've been raped and it doesn't even matter if the fucking sludge bucket slept with your sister, you have much bigger issues.
If you are in the US I hope you turn this pedo into the authorities and put him in jail where he belongs.