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That’s good! I hope that works out.
Also, I understand you and your husband have a partnership with this man and by telling his wife you’d risk the possibility of him cutting ties with you both but is that really a bad thing? I mean, he’s showing you who is by having an affair. He has terrible character.
When my SO started showing interest in me, I actively tried to push away. For MONTHS. He flat out told me “I know what you're doing. I'm not going anywhere. You're worth it.”
That pissed me off to high heaven. Like how absolute dare this bastard do what no one else did. Why couldn't he just leave? I clearly do not want to be bothered! Wtaf?!
And now I can't imagine my life without him. I'm actually very scared to lose him, because he stuck around when no one else did.
It takes an extraordinary person to see past my bullshit, see the broken mess that is me and decide they still want to be with me. That will never happen to me again. He's a keeper.
Your SO wasn't insulting you. You did what nobody else would. You saw someone worth staying with. When everyone else just saw his superficial qualities, you saw him. You loved him. You loved him enough to stay.
He's telling you you're incredibly special. Take the compliment.
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I briefly dated a guy with a major foot fetish but we didn’t get far enough for me to try it out— just enough for it to be clear it was definitely a thing he liked. I was down to try it out, I’m not especially titillated by feet but I like feet and hands and they’re both sensitive parts of the body so it’s not like an alien planet to imagine why he might’ve liked it.
It’s totally okay to not be interested in any sexual activity for any reason. Sometimes couples can work around mismatches, sometimes they can’t— you’ll find out eventually whether it works or you’re incompatible.
If you’re incompatible, don’t stress about it. You’re very young, most relationships don’t work out anyway. This post comes across very stressed. It’s okay if things don’t work out.
The major red flag here is:
You hate feet, rather than being neutral
You seem very stressed and to almost feel violated by the concept
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You find the idea of incorporating feet into intimacy to be disgusting and degrading
If you hate something or feel gross doing it, don’t do it.
Not everyone likes feet, but not everyone hates them. It’s probably not a good idea to date someone whose kinks and fetishes and tendencies make you feel stressed out or objectified by.
Personally, I don’t mind feet. They’re ticklish, kind of cute, and people often like them massaged. That’s about all my feelings about them. If my partner disclosed having a foot thing, I’d be interested in trying it because I like sex with my partner and feel comfortable with him and am not grossed out by feet themselves.
It kind of sounds like you don’t feel sexually comfortable with your partner in general, and you come across as very uncomfortable with a sexual interest he has.
As a general rule: Try what you feel comfortable with, don’t try what you don’t feel comfortable with.
Also, if you for any reason don’t feel comfortable with your partner or don’t feel comfortable sexually experimenting with them, and things just seem gross or objectifying or overwhelming, it’s okay to break things off.
You don’t have to try anything, and if the prospect of sex with someone feels more stressful than fun, they’re probably not the one for you!
You feel lied to and don’t trust him because you WERE lied to and SHOULDN’T trust him.
Why don’t you want to cut him out of your life? If someone lied to me and broke my trust in the way he has, I’d be happy to cut them out. What is your hesitation?
Finally, if you stay with him (which I hope you won’t) be aware that you are telling him that it is okay to cheat and get other girls pregnant (meaning no protection) and he WILL do it again.
Bringing past garbage up from years ago (particularly events that happened before her) does not make for a healthy relationship. You shouldn't have to keep apologizing for it either.
I like to fix my problems before I talk about them. It drives my friends and family crazy but it is just how I function. I don't want to talk about it until I know what the resolution is. I get just needing some space
I've seen people who have what I would call a “weed addiction”. But they smoke an ounce or more a week. It's usually more of a mental thing than a physical addiction. If she is like me, she is probably just taking a hit here and there to make the day a little nicer. Your girlfriend is just a stoner, nothing to worry about. Cannabis isn't like drinking or harder drugs, and a lot of menial labor jobs can absolutely be done “a little” high, as long as you are not messing up constantly or operating machinery.
I do feel that smoking should be done after my work is finished. But that's just because it gives me a bit of a panic attack sometimes if I have to worry about getting shit done. But I also don't work as a server. If I had one back when I did that job, I would probably be hitting it at work too.
On the other hand, it's way too easy with the vape pens to be high 24/7, so I feel like people should take a nice break every once in a while to get their head straight.
Couples therapy would really help. There’s no chance a therapist would tell him that this is appropriate. You need an advocate. I understand why you are losing your mind. This is bonkers. Not okay.
I'm so sorry to hear that. You are still worthy and deserving of love and I hope you find peace. Thank you for the post. I'll consider your wisdom moving forward.
Your boss is basically testing your boundaries for weaknesses and seeing what he can get away with. It also allows him to gradually escalate his behavior so he doesn’t just jump right into doing something aggressive and maybe have you question yourself and not raise alarm bells.
Start being strong in rejecting the overtures while talking to others about it.
That’s good! I hope that works out.
Also, I understand you and your husband have a partnership with this man and by telling his wife you’d risk the possibility of him cutting ties with you both but is that really a bad thing? I mean, he’s showing you who is by having an affair. He has terrible character.
Because OP is irresponsible
Something similar happened to me.
When my SO started showing interest in me, I actively tried to push away. For MONTHS. He flat out told me “I know what you're doing. I'm not going anywhere. You're worth it.”
That pissed me off to high heaven. Like how absolute dare this bastard do what no one else did. Why couldn't he just leave? I clearly do not want to be bothered! Wtaf?!
And now I can't imagine my life without him. I'm actually very scared to lose him, because he stuck around when no one else did.
It takes an extraordinary person to see past my bullshit, see the broken mess that is me and decide they still want to be with me. That will never happen to me again. He's a keeper.
Your SO wasn't insulting you. You did what nobody else would. You saw someone worth staying with. When everyone else just saw his superficial qualities, you saw him. You loved him. You loved him enough to stay.
He's telling you you're incredibly special. Take the compliment.
She is mentally unwell.
Send her home.
If dad objects, send him with her.
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This is so terrible to hear. I know this is spot on though
I briefly dated a guy with a major foot fetish but we didn’t get far enough for me to try it out— just enough for it to be clear it was definitely a thing he liked. I was down to try it out, I’m not especially titillated by feet but I like feet and hands and they’re both sensitive parts of the body so it’s not like an alien planet to imagine why he might’ve liked it.
It’s totally okay to not be interested in any sexual activity for any reason. Sometimes couples can work around mismatches, sometimes they can’t— you’ll find out eventually whether it works or you’re incompatible.
If you’re incompatible, don’t stress about it. You’re very young, most relationships don’t work out anyway. This post comes across very stressed. It’s okay if things don’t work out.
The major red flag here is:
You hate feet, rather than being neutral
You seem very stressed and to almost feel violated by the concept
and
You find the idea of incorporating feet into intimacy to be disgusting and degrading
If you hate something or feel gross doing it, don’t do it.
Not everyone likes feet, but not everyone hates them. It’s probably not a good idea to date someone whose kinks and fetishes and tendencies make you feel stressed out or objectified by.
Personally, I don’t mind feet. They’re ticklish, kind of cute, and people often like them massaged. That’s about all my feelings about them. If my partner disclosed having a foot thing, I’d be interested in trying it because I like sex with my partner and feel comfortable with him and am not grossed out by feet themselves.
It kind of sounds like you don’t feel sexually comfortable with your partner in general, and you come across as very uncomfortable with a sexual interest he has.
As a general rule: Try what you feel comfortable with, don’t try what you don’t feel comfortable with.
Also, if you for any reason don’t feel comfortable with your partner or don’t feel comfortable sexually experimenting with them, and things just seem gross or objectifying or overwhelming, it’s okay to break things off.
You don’t have to try anything, and if the prospect of sex with someone feels more stressful than fun, they’re probably not the one for you!
You feel lied to and don’t trust him because you WERE lied to and SHOULDN’T trust him.
Why don’t you want to cut him out of your life? If someone lied to me and broke my trust in the way he has, I’d be happy to cut them out. What is your hesitation?
Finally, if you stay with him (which I hope you won’t) be aware that you are telling him that it is okay to cheat and get other girls pregnant (meaning no protection) and he WILL do it again.
Bringing past garbage up from years ago (particularly events that happened before her) does not make for a healthy relationship. You shouldn't have to keep apologizing for it either.
Send them. She has a right to know
I like to fix my problems before I talk about them. It drives my friends and family crazy but it is just how I function. I don't want to talk about it until I know what the resolution is. I get just needing some space
That man is a gas chamber. Gurl, dip and quick!
I've seen people who have what I would call a “weed addiction”. But they smoke an ounce or more a week. It's usually more of a mental thing than a physical addiction. If she is like me, she is probably just taking a hit here and there to make the day a little nicer. Your girlfriend is just a stoner, nothing to worry about. Cannabis isn't like drinking or harder drugs, and a lot of menial labor jobs can absolutely be done “a little” high, as long as you are not messing up constantly or operating machinery.
I do feel that smoking should be done after my work is finished. But that's just because it gives me a bit of a panic attack sometimes if I have to worry about getting shit done. But I also don't work as a server. If I had one back when I did that job, I would probably be hitting it at work too.
On the other hand, it's way too easy with the vape pens to be high 24/7, so I feel like people should take a nice break every once in a while to get their head straight.
Couples therapy would really help. There’s no chance a therapist would tell him that this is appropriate. You need an advocate. I understand why you are losing your mind. This is bonkers. Not okay.
WTF?! He's crazy. Glad you're at your parents.
I'm so sorry to hear that. You are still worthy and deserving of love and I hope you find peace. Thank you for the post. I'll consider your wisdom moving forward.
Your boss is basically testing your boundaries for weaknesses and seeing what he can get away with. It also allows him to gradually escalate his behavior so he doesn’t just jump right into doing something aggressive and maybe have you question yourself and not raise alarm bells.
Start being strong in rejecting the overtures while talking to others about it.
So he’s allowed to say things about me? I should have used the word venting rather than trash talking..
She's holding out hope he can fix it..
I'd be completely put off a dude throwing a tantrum. I've worked in preschools. It's not cute when boys are 5 but atleast i can understand that.
At 20… lord