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1. Here’s my rule. It’s naked to online by and it doesn’t negate the pain, but here it is: If someone breaks up with me, that breakup is immediately mutual and final.

   Why? Because I have standards about who I invest my heart in, and the most important one is that they’re crazy about me.

   You and your ex were together for seven years. That’s plenty of time to decide whether you’re the one. If she’s not sure, then it’s not happening. You’ve also been together since you both were very young. A lot can change between 18 and 25 — if you’ve grown apart instead of together, or if she feels the need to strike out and figure out how to be an adult without you, then the only thing to do is let her go.

   It sounds like your ex is done with the romantic relationship, but she’s attached to you and doesn’t want to lose you, and since she’s never been an adult without you, she’s afraid and uncertain. It doesn’t mean she wants you back or that there’s a future here.

   Now, enough about her. What do you want out of a relationship? Don’t think about how things used to be with her; think about who she is to you right now. If you were to describe your dream woman, would you include “Isn’t sure if she wants to be with me”? “Doesn’t know what she wants out of life”? “Will keep me dancing on the line because she’s not sure whether to cut me loose”? Hell nah, son, you want someone who’s passionate about you.

   Let this one go. If you reel her back in, these feelings will only keep growing until she breaks up with you again. Mostly couples who get back together after a breakup will separate again later on for the exact same reason.

   Also, imo, this is a shattering blow to your sense of trust and safety in the relationship. Think about it realistically — if you were to get back together, would you really feel secure that she loved you and valued you and wanted to be with you? How could you, after this?

   If it gives you comfort, I do think there’s hope. But you both need time away — real time away. She needs to figure herself out. You need to heal. You both need to move on. The relationship you had was over the moment she broke up with you. If you are really truly meant to be, then she’ll come back to you in her own time, when she’s confident in herself and knows what she wants. Then, if you still want her, you can work together on building a new relationship. But that can’t happen without truly laying the old relationship to rest, which means six months to a year of no contact. Move forward as if it’s really permanently over; shut that door behind you — and if the door is meant to reopen, let her do it.

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2. You and your fiancé, at least seem to have one major issue in common: you are both very concerned with HIS needs. 46M here. My partner is 42F.

   Am I the only one who seems to be catching on to the fact that almost every relationship issue can be resolved with honesty? Sometimes I get cranky and a sexual release will certainly help if I start with a little foreplay and try to get things moving in that direction, thank God she feels safe and comfortable enough to tell me that she’s just not feeling it tonight. There is nothing more emasculating or embarrassing than begging somebody to do some thing they clearly don’t want to do. I always want to respect her wishes! But respect is a two-way street!

   We buy each other sex toys every now and then. Just the other night she went and got a fleshlight for me. She laid in bed next to me, rubbed my chest, whispered in my ear, and helped make sure her partner’s needs were met without sacrificing her own self respect.

   It works both ways! There are times when I’m not feeling it, but I am more than happy to walk over to the “naughty drawer” and pull out some options until she settles on which Toy will do the trick Lol. And then, we lay there next to each other, because of nothing in this world turns me on more than just feeling her skin against mine. Her pheromones are intoxicating!

   I was married for nine years. My ex-wife thought she was being a good partner, and “doing her duty“ by bending over the side of the bed, so I could just get after it. Maybe her heart was in the right place, but it was always a soul crushing experience. Because of that, I made my partner promise me that she would never agree to do anything with me, but she truly didn’t want to do out of a fear of disappointing me. Because nothing would disappoint me more.

   So now we do this wild and crazy thing where we share how we honestly feel, we treat each other with respect, and we prioritize, each others wants, needs, and desires… Again, without ever disrespecting ourselves. Sorry for the long reply.

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3. Wait, then you'd be 26 when she got pregnant, 27 when born (plus or minus some months). That's not that young.

   I'm confused here. Obviously she's controlling and manipulative. I'm mostly confused on why you thought you at 26 and her at 35 was “early” for kids? Those are both reasonable ages for kids.

   I still think she's manipulative and controlling. Your thought process just doesn't make sense though. That doesn't make you at fault, I just think you're not thinking your life and actions through very much when looking at the future.

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4. Yes both him and I are.

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5. Time for you to grow up, decide whether you love the girl and want to be a father to the baby or a POS which sounds like how you re leaning. Your best friends sound like Dbags, pressuring for an abortion, she seems to smart for you to be honest, you sound like a boy. Time for you to make some grown up decisions.

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6. I agree it's not normal, but it is possible for people to grow and improve. It's a relationship of 3 years, trust issues aren't necessarily enough to hit the autodump button.

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