Aside from these other insecurity comments, that I agree with and are more likely – is she a victim of sexual abuse? If so she could be triggered by seeing things like that and taking it out on you.
I was groomed and abused and part of it included being made to watch/read messed up things (porn/gore) when I was about 7. I can't watch anything with nudity now without feeling very uncomfortable, not even mild things, like a flash of a man's ass as he's leaving a shower or something. I immediately look away/stare down at my phone and don't want to watch the show anymore.
In the past this has looked a lot like the behaviours your SO is exhibiting. Therapy is a work in progress for me, obviously.
I canât say I am in the same boat, but you need to tell her today asap in person. Tell her the truth and let he decide for herself. Donât lie or hide it.
You couldnât have wrote a more perfect person for me, and he made it very very clear he felt the same. It was intense but completely reciprocated and welcome
Your brother needs a lawyer and in separation cases generally one parent can file for temporary custody and it will be granted until the hearing. He should do that and get the custody case to a hearing ASAP. Each parent technically can do what ever they want until that custody is filed. He can give her supervised visitation until the hearing. He also needs to keep a log of all these incidents with his kids meltdowns for his side of the case.
Itâs called switching, and itâs common for people with BPD I felt abandoned and humiliated, so in my irrational emotional state, it made me think he was an evil, horrible person who I couldnât trust.
But youâre not old enough to go. Should be put his life on hold and not go out just because youâre not old enough to join him? Are you saying heâs never allowed to go out unless youâre with him? You basically dumped him, which is fair enough, but the fact he came back and said âok, i wonât go out without you from now onâ and then you said ok, Iâll get back with you. Could you imagine this was a man saying it to a woman? Weâd be on here calling him a controlling POS for not allowing his girlfriend to go out without him ??ââď¸ works both ways.
I know it feels like the end of the world right now, heart break is really terrible. You will get over it though, even if it doesnât feel like it. In the meantime, my advice is to stay single for a while, get to know and love yourself properly before rushing into another relationship. Learn to live! independently, to take care of your own matters. Then you are in a much better position both to bring something into a relationship and to understand what you actually need from a relationship. Beyond cute curls.
You crushing your spouses boundary is wrong You should never want to cross a boundary from someone . And yeah they kinda are. If your partner tells them hey im.not comfy with this they shouldn't do that as it causes harm to them so yeah they are set there not to be crossed. If you feel like you want to do something that's in a boundary you are given leave the person then do it. Messing someone over because you want to do something that hurts them should never happen in a relationship.
Just not watch porn. It's not that hot to figure out.
Aside from these other insecurity comments, that I agree with and are more likely – is she a victim of sexual abuse? If so she could be triggered by seeing things like that and taking it out on you.
I was groomed and abused and part of it included being made to watch/read messed up things (porn/gore) when I was about 7. I can't watch anything with nudity now without feeling very uncomfortable, not even mild things, like a flash of a man's ass as he's leaving a shower or something. I immediately look away/stare down at my phone and don't want to watch the show anymore.
In the past this has looked a lot like the behaviours your SO is exhibiting. Therapy is a work in progress for me, obviously.
Any person deserves to know — certainly and medically — whether the child they are fathering is their biological child.
If they did that the bar would go out of business quick. The city needs the revenue generated by liquor license and taxes
I think they meant before you realized that. Back when you were fucking the other woman.
You can not possibly be mid 30âs, you are severely lacking in emotional intelligence and maturity. I suggest list of introspection and maybe therapy
So chill out with relationship, be better version and maybe it will help?
Yesterday even! Sheesh
LOL, weed.
How often were you two seeing each other during January?
I canât say I am in the same boat, but you need to tell her today asap in person. Tell her the truth and let he decide for herself. Donât lie or hide it.
You couldnât have wrote a more perfect person for me, and he made it very very clear he felt the same. It was intense but completely reciprocated and welcome
This is called infatuation and it wears off.
yes he just sees you as a sex object
he sounds like a creep and you think the sun shines out of his arse because he does the bare minimum
Is, is it some sort of secret? I don't get the issue. He would be embarassed by not getting the job either way, I imagine.
Your brother needs a lawyer and in separation cases generally one parent can file for temporary custody and it will be granted until the hearing. He should do that and get the custody case to a hearing ASAP. Each parent technically can do what ever they want until that custody is filed. He can give her supervised visitation until the hearing. He also needs to keep a log of all these incidents with his kids meltdowns for his side of the case.
Itâs called switching, and itâs common for people with BPD I felt abandoned and humiliated, so in my irrational emotional state, it made me think he was an evil, horrible person who I couldnât trust.
But youâre not old enough to go. Should be put his life on hold and not go out just because youâre not old enough to join him? Are you saying heâs never allowed to go out unless youâre with him? You basically dumped him, which is fair enough, but the fact he came back and said âok, i wonât go out without you from now onâ and then you said ok, Iâll get back with you. Could you imagine this was a man saying it to a woman? Weâd be on here calling him a controlling POS for not allowing his girlfriend to go out without him ??ââď¸ works both ways.
I know it feels like the end of the world right now, heart break is really terrible. You will get over it though, even if it doesnât feel like it. In the meantime, my advice is to stay single for a while, get to know and love yourself properly before rushing into another relationship. Learn to live! independently, to take care of your own matters. Then you are in a much better position both to bring something into a relationship and to understand what you actually need from a relationship. Beyond cute curls.
You crushing your spouses boundary is wrong You should never want to cross a boundary from someone . And yeah they kinda are. If your partner tells them hey im.not comfy with this they shouldn't do that as it causes harm to them so yeah they are set there not to be crossed. If you feel like you want to do something that's in a boundary you are given leave the person then do it. Messing someone over because you want to do something that hurts them should never happen in a relationship.