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I'm 38/f and anyone under 30 at this point feels like a baby, last time I was single at 33 I had teenagers clamoring for me on tinder and it just felt weird even though they were legal. I can't imagine actually starting a relationship with someone that young.
If your husband is working out with her at 6:30 is he going to work at 7 in workout clothing sweaty ??that doesn’t mKe sense. are we sure they are exercising
You need to not only wash all the clothes you were wearing – you need to deep clean your house. Send your coats out for laundering, wash everyone else's clothes, get a carpet cleaner, get an upholstery cleaner and deep clean the hell out of every piece of furniture, go get your car detailed. If your kid has stuffed animals, those get a wash.
I promise you, that shit permeates EVERYTHING and I promise you that you as a smoker think it doesn't smell and every single non-smoker actually thinks it's putrid. Because the really shitty part about being a non-smoker around smokers is that smoking dulls the sense of smell in the smoker so they don't realize just how putrid they smell and make everything around them smell.
My coworkers don't smoke inside the office. But their chairs stink. The wrist rests for their keyboards stink. Their mousepads stink. The receiver to their phone stinks. And it lingers. One coworker was on vacation for two weeks and you could still smell her cigarette smoke lingering on items in her cubicle (not even a closed office) when you went in there to grab paperwork to back her up. One coworker quit smoking (after their second heart attack finally) but hadn't laundered their winter coat in the intervening time period and nearly puked riding the elevator with them one morning several months after I knew they had quit.
When I VC her she took a lot of time(though her phone was in her hand since we were on the audio call) and all her lights were off and she said she wants to sleep because of the headache which she didn’t mention on the audio call.
I think the part that makes this more painful is he told a friend he almost ended the relationship over his lack of attraction, but convinced himself to get over it. That's the part that stuck out to me. Attraction is a funny thing, but I personally would always wonder when he would decide to persue an affair with someone he was actually attracted to. Imho.
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I'm 38/f and anyone under 30 at this point feels like a baby, last time I was single at 33 I had teenagers clamoring for me on tinder and it just felt weird even though they were legal. I can't imagine actually starting a relationship with someone that young.
If your husband is working out with her at 6:30 is he going to work at 7 in workout clothing sweaty ??that doesn’t mKe sense. are we sure they are exercising
You need to not only wash all the clothes you were wearing – you need to deep clean your house. Send your coats out for laundering, wash everyone else's clothes, get a carpet cleaner, get an upholstery cleaner and deep clean the hell out of every piece of furniture, go get your car detailed. If your kid has stuffed animals, those get a wash.
I promise you, that shit permeates EVERYTHING and I promise you that you as a smoker think it doesn't smell and every single non-smoker actually thinks it's putrid. Because the really shitty part about being a non-smoker around smokers is that smoking dulls the sense of smell in the smoker so they don't realize just how putrid they smell and make everything around them smell.
My coworkers don't smoke inside the office. But their chairs stink. The wrist rests for their keyboards stink. Their mousepads stink. The receiver to their phone stinks. And it lingers. One coworker was on vacation for two weeks and you could still smell her cigarette smoke lingering on items in her cubicle (not even a closed office) when you went in there to grab paperwork to back her up. One coworker quit smoking (after their second heart attack finally) but hadn't laundered their winter coat in the intervening time period and nearly puked riding the elevator with them one morning several months after I knew they had quit.
When I VC her she took a lot of time(though her phone was in her hand since we were on the audio call) and all her lights were off and she said she wants to sleep because of the headache which she didn’t mention on the audio call.
Thats the day it turned physical
I think the part that makes this more painful is he told a friend he almost ended the relationship over his lack of attraction, but convinced himself to get over it. That's the part that stuck out to me. Attraction is a funny thing, but I personally would always wonder when he would decide to persue an affair with someone he was actually attracted to. Imho.
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