Dudes take every opportunity to whip their dick out. I do wonder if he washes his hands after or just goes about his “just touched my dick” business. Lol
Girl you’re way too passive. You can’t wait another 10 years because you don’t want to mention it. Tell him outright you want to get married and ask him his timeline. It’s not the smartest decision to buy a house with a “boyfriend” either.
Agree with you completely, just want to add for OP in case she sees this:
You're probably feeling dumb right now, like you should've recognized earlier. Some people will probably even agree with you.
Don't worry about that. You can only take actions once you realize something. You can't realize something before you realize it. It can't be done!
A lot of perverts and toxic people are very good at hiding their true selves. Frankly, you might still not know if he hadn't left his Instagram logged in. He's likely been covering his tracks a lot. Do not beat yourself up. You have done nothing wrong.
Leaky Boundaries – damn, what a beautiful way of putting it.
I agree that it seems we are on different frequencies of understanding. In your great examples though, I can't help but think of the people who exist in a grey area of understanding both sides (wanting/not wanting children) and are ok with either, and I probably exist somewhere in there. For example, I am willing to change and understand her, but she is unwilling to change or understand me, which is almost feels as bad as the idea of giving up disrespectful images (which I probably can).
I guess that is the very definition of compromise, but I also see it as an ability to grow by challenging possibly rigid perspectives that feel mostly defined by fear or insecurity.
Dudes take every opportunity to whip their dick out. I do wonder if he washes his hands after or just goes about his “just touched my dick” business. Lol
He,
His Mommy is already taking care of him. He's a baby man, and his Mommy has put him in time out.
But why do you feel that way?
Girl you’re way too passive. You can’t wait another 10 years because you don’t want to mention it. Tell him outright you want to get married and ask him his timeline. It’s not the smartest decision to buy a house with a “boyfriend” either.
Agree with you completely, just want to add for OP in case she sees this:
You're probably feeling dumb right now, like you should've recognized earlier. Some people will probably even agree with you.
Don't worry about that. You can only take actions once you realize something. You can't realize something before you realize it. It can't be done!
A lot of perverts and toxic people are very good at hiding their true selves. Frankly, you might still not know if he hadn't left his Instagram logged in. He's likely been covering his tracks a lot. Do not beat yourself up. You have done nothing wrong.
Growing on your own might be a better way to put it
Leaky Boundaries – damn, what a beautiful way of putting it.
I agree that it seems we are on different frequencies of understanding. In your great examples though, I can't help but think of the people who exist in a grey area of understanding both sides (wanting/not wanting children) and are ok with either, and I probably exist somewhere in there. For example, I am willing to change and understand her, but she is unwilling to change or understand me, which is almost feels as bad as the idea of giving up disrespectful images (which I probably can).
I guess that is the very definition of compromise, but I also see it as an ability to grow by challenging possibly rigid perspectives that feel mostly defined by fear or insecurity.
Grosser than grown adults acting like kids? Lmao.