Talk to her, lol. We’re just a bunch of Redditors that you aren’t dating, with tons of different opinions. If she’s completing a tough course at school, she likely has her year all planned out so that she knows what project takes priority when & that no deadlines are missed. She’s a smart cookie for doing that. She’s likely applied that planning aspect to your relationship as well. That’s her starting point, now you can talk to her & add in your thoughts & ask your questions. Is she under a time crunch to get into a relationship because of visa problems? Are you for certain not going to let her move in with you until you’ve been dating for at least 2 years? Does she want 4 kids & she wants to start popping them out the second she graduates? Do you want 4 kids but think she should work at least 5 years to build up cash to pay for them?
Seriously, order a pizza & crack open a beer & decide what your life plan is. Then next weekend do the same thing but invite your girlfriend to join you.
You cheated, I don't want to be with a cheater.
Conversation over. It's really that simple, man.
Talk to her, lol. We’re just a bunch of Redditors that you aren’t dating, with tons of different opinions. If she’s completing a tough course at school, she likely has her year all planned out so that she knows what project takes priority when & that no deadlines are missed. She’s a smart cookie for doing that. She’s likely applied that planning aspect to your relationship as well. That’s her starting point, now you can talk to her & add in your thoughts & ask your questions. Is she under a time crunch to get into a relationship because of visa problems? Are you for certain not going to let her move in with you until you’ve been dating for at least 2 years? Does she want 4 kids & she wants to start popping them out the second she graduates? Do you want 4 kids but think she should work at least 5 years to build up cash to pay for them?
Seriously, order a pizza & crack open a beer & decide what your life plan is. Then next weekend do the same thing but invite your girlfriend to join you.
why are you still dating him ? Neither told you ? how did you find out ?
That’s because you respect yourself , that other backup guy might not be , but it would be a good idea to give him a head up.