Funny you mentioned it, the game is Conan Exiles: Age of Sorcery. Actually, prior to seeing his character I downloaded the game, as he asked if I'd play it with him and his cousin. Of course its now downloaded and hes asking why I haven't played with them yet.
I thought about joining them and making a male character as sexualized as he has made his character, but I'm pretty sure if I attempt to play while I am bothered like this he will know something is up. Also, I do think he would be equally uncomfortable if I did that and it is not my goal to make him feel that way.
Not nececcarily. I would be a little upset too if my best friend slept with my fwb (my best friend is also my sister so it would be extra weird). And ofc you have some kinds of feelings even though you don't have “those kinds of feelings” and don't want to be in a relationship with them, or else it would just be hookups and not a fwb.
this is like my worst fear that iâll be in a relationship and someone will be less attracted to me because of my weight. if they said anything iâd immediately start restricting again. edâs are like being an alcoholic- itâs an addiction that you can be âin recoveryâ from but itâs never gone. please remember this when communicating with people who have struggled with edâs
What drives people differs per person, some keep to them selves. Others may be a lot more open about their motives.
Everybody has their own way of processing and doing things, what works for you will likely not work for somebody else. We can never truly feel what somebody else feels, the best we can do is to listen, understand and try to sympathize. But there is no point in comparing ourselves based on how we perceive, what matters is how we let what we know and feel affect us.
Does he know you're not always feeling validated or understood? And is there anything he can do about this or is his love language lost in translation or not exactly what you desire?
As for expressing, try to pickup or discuss what you two expect from each other emotionally. A feeling can be difficult for some to put into words, but physicality or acts of service can be just as or even more telling. It might take a lot of courage to experiment on how you two want to convey your love, so giving him a nudge in the right direction (or to the point but in a kind way) might be all that needs to happen.
Keep in mind that with mutual respect and some communication you can go a long way, just make sure you're both on the same page.
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Perhaps just directly ask her if she still wants to date, or if sheâs moving on and forgot to at least inform you. Hopefully sheâll give you an answer, so you can stop being in limbo. Unfortunately though, it doesnât look good. Sheâs either moving on, or sheâs mad at you about something and expecting you to figure it out. But that almost never works. Hopefully sheâll communicate. And if she doesnât, I know itâs very hot to hear, but youâre better off without her. You deserve someone who will healthily communicate with you.
Okey so your marriage is over, first talk to a divorce lawyer, don't agree to open marriage on text or email.
You need to find what are your rights & you might get half of house & other stuff but a lawyer.
Second grow a pair, you can't let someone treat you like a B*****. Your wife has lost respect for you because you are acting like one.
Keep the photo she sent it's evidence. Go to YouTube, search SSM (smart successful men) YouTube channel, watch his videos, he talks a lot about these open relationship situation and how you should act, don't delay it, atleast watch the most popular once about open relationship situation.
Don't say anything to your wife & be ready to walk away no matter how difficult it is, you have to become mentally strong.
Your marriage is over, she has already cheated & sent you evidence so don't think about continuing relationship.
If possible take a cheap hotel room and stay there for a few days while you get your legal situation sorted.
Don't fight or argue with her about anything, better not talk to her about anything.
No actually I can understand op's behaviour. He knows he is not actually hurting her and this is a simulation. This is not the same as a malicious partner abusing you, you can't compare them. His intentions matter here I think.
The validity of the reasons rests squarely on âdo you want to let go?â And the answer is yes, so thatâs it. You donât need our permission to cut off someone who was a bad influence in your life. If you want, make plans with the few people in the group youâre still close to, be clear whatâs going on for you and that/if you still want to stay friends with them.
How old is he ?
Funny you mentioned it, the game is Conan Exiles: Age of Sorcery. Actually, prior to seeing his character I downloaded the game, as he asked if I'd play it with him and his cousin. Of course its now downloaded and hes asking why I haven't played with them yet.
I thought about joining them and making a male character as sexualized as he has made his character, but I'm pretty sure if I attempt to play while I am bothered like this he will know something is up. Also, I do think he would be equally uncomfortable if I did that and it is not my goal to make him feel that way.
Not nececcarily. I would be a little upset too if my best friend slept with my fwb (my best friend is also my sister so it would be extra weird). And ofc you have some kinds of feelings even though you don't have “those kinds of feelings” and don't want to be in a relationship with them, or else it would just be hookups and not a fwb.
this is like my worst fear that iâll be in a relationship and someone will be less attracted to me because of my weight. if they said anything iâd immediately start restricting again. edâs are like being an alcoholic- itâs an addiction that you can be âin recoveryâ from but itâs never gone. please remember this when communicating with people who have struggled with edâs
What drives people differs per person, some keep to them selves. Others may be a lot more open about their motives.
Everybody has their own way of processing and doing things, what works for you will likely not work for somebody else. We can never truly feel what somebody else feels, the best we can do is to listen, understand and try to sympathize. But there is no point in comparing ourselves based on how we perceive, what matters is how we let what we know and feel affect us.
Does he know you're not always feeling validated or understood? And is there anything he can do about this or is his love language lost in translation or not exactly what you desire?
As for expressing, try to pickup or discuss what you two expect from each other emotionally. A feeling can be difficult for some to put into words, but physicality or acts of service can be just as or even more telling. It might take a lot of courage to experiment on how you two want to convey your love, so giving him a nudge in the right direction (or to the point but in a kind way) might be all that needs to happen.
Keep in mind that with mutual respect and some communication you can go a long way, just make sure you're both on the same page.
Best of luck!
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Ugh. This sounds messy. Iâm sorry.
Perhaps just directly ask her if she still wants to date, or if sheâs moving on and forgot to at least inform you. Hopefully sheâll give you an answer, so you can stop being in limbo. Unfortunately though, it doesnât look good. Sheâs either moving on, or sheâs mad at you about something and expecting you to figure it out. But that almost never works. Hopefully sheâll communicate. And if she doesnât, I know itâs very hot to hear, but youâre better off without her. You deserve someone who will healthily communicate with you.
Politeness is overrated, especially when reptiles have invaded your home.
ok, thanks for your input. I'm not a troll but feel free to believe what you want.
Okey so your marriage is over, first talk to a divorce lawyer, don't agree to open marriage on text or email.
You need to find what are your rights & you might get half of house & other stuff but a lawyer.
Second grow a pair, you can't let someone treat you like a B*****. Your wife has lost respect for you because you are acting like one.
Keep the photo she sent it's evidence. Go to YouTube, search SSM (smart successful men) YouTube channel, watch his videos, he talks a lot about these open relationship situation and how you should act, don't delay it, atleast watch the most popular once about open relationship situation.
Don't say anything to your wife & be ready to walk away no matter how difficult it is, you have to become mentally strong.
Your marriage is over, she has already cheated & sent you evidence so don't think about continuing relationship.
If possible take a cheap hotel room and stay there for a few days while you get your legal situation sorted.
Don't fight or argue with her about anything, better not talk to her about anything.
I donât know how to reply to you.
No actually I can understand op's behaviour. He knows he is not actually hurting her and this is a simulation. This is not the same as a malicious partner abusing you, you can't compare them. His intentions matter here I think.
The validity of the reasons rests squarely on âdo you want to let go?â And the answer is yes, so thatâs it. You donât need our permission to cut off someone who was a bad influence in your life. If you want, make plans with the few people in the group youâre still close to, be clear whatâs going on for you and that/if you still want to stay friends with them.