You on-line in the US????? And this crap is going on! I feel like this is something that should have be been made known while dating. It seems like this information was kept from you. So your fiance lied to you by with holding information.
Let me guess…it would be the men or a “man of religion”, who would be “checking” to see if your hymen is intacted.
This is absolutely disgusting & demeaning! Why should you be subjected to this because you are a woman?
Once married what other archaic “traditions” are going to be expected of you? What about of you have a daughter? What “traditions” will she be subjected too??
What do you think will happen once you've had your discussion? Likely, she will call him and tell him what's just happened and it will end up with him saying he'll talk to you and make sure you don't do anything like that again. Hey presto, they now have an extra bond and you look insecure.
Or you can set your boundaries with your own boyfriend. No problem with him having friends, big problem if his friends are causing him to backtrack on your plans together or make you feel second place. Her behaviour is not the issue. His behaviour is.
(But maybe read back over what you wrote and check whether it's really not jealousy. The things you have described aren't awful, and it only really makes sense that you would be so upset about them if there's jealousy going on too. Acknowledging jealousy is not a bad thing – a decent boyfriend will respect that you're a little more anxious about this friendship than his others, and why, and make reasonable changes to build your sense of security.)
Good lord – throw both Fil and SO out!
If she’s constantly lying and just being very dishonest it’s best you send her a message and dip
You on-line in the US????? And this crap is going on! I feel like this is something that should have be been made known while dating. It seems like this information was kept from you. So your fiance lied to you by with holding information.
Let me guess…it would be the men or a “man of religion”, who would be “checking” to see if your hymen is intacted.
This is absolutely disgusting & demeaning! Why should you be subjected to this because you are a woman?
Once married what other archaic “traditions” are going to be expected of you? What about of you have a daughter? What “traditions” will she be subjected too??
I would walk.
He literally only compared them once. That isn’t enough to base a theory on.
If a woman had made that comment, people would say she was joking, not negging. So why assume it for this guy?
And by that standard, his girlfriend is also constantly getting out of doing stuff with Rock Paper Scissors.
No. You're not a bad guy. What your gf is doing is inappropriate. She's disrespecting you. She clearly likes this guy.
What do you think will happen once you've had your discussion? Likely, she will call him and tell him what's just happened and it will end up with him saying he'll talk to you and make sure you don't do anything like that again. Hey presto, they now have an extra bond and you look insecure.
Or you can set your boundaries with your own boyfriend. No problem with him having friends, big problem if his friends are causing him to backtrack on your plans together or make you feel second place. Her behaviour is not the issue. His behaviour is.
(But maybe read back over what you wrote and check whether it's really not jealousy. The things you have described aren't awful, and it only really makes sense that you would be so upset about them if there's jealousy going on too. Acknowledging jealousy is not a bad thing – a decent boyfriend will respect that you're a little more anxious about this friendship than his others, and why, and make reasonable changes to build your sense of security.)