When I find myself in these situations that I am uncomfortable with… I leave.
I don't think I have any right to decide who my partner keeps or disposes in their life.
And for arguments sake, lets define this person as a FWB… If my partner kept the FWB around after we defined our relationship.
Not my cup of tea.
But I can't expect her to drop someone on a whim.
If I cannot accept or trust my partners own judgement, then I don't think we're genuinely a good fit.
Also, take into consideration this:
At your request, he removed her from his life. And by your approval, he brought her back into his life.
You have three options from my POV:
You can leave the relationship. You can befriend her yourself. I know it might be awkward and naked at first. But in the end, everyone wins. You can request what you originally had him do.
Whatever option you pick, this trust issue situation you're in, needs to go. Its impossible to have a long term healthy relationship when there is something like this on the table.
I was planning on doing that, but I did want to hear what other people had to say…
yikes.
Friends donβt hide their significant other from them out of fear of hurting their feelings.
When I find myself in these situations that I am uncomfortable with… I leave.
I don't think I have any right to decide who my partner keeps or disposes in their life.
And for arguments sake, lets define this person as a FWB… If my partner kept the FWB around after we defined our relationship.
Not my cup of tea.
But I can't expect her to drop someone on a whim.
If I cannot accept or trust my partners own judgement, then I don't think we're genuinely a good fit.
Also, take into consideration this:
At your request, he removed her from his life. And by your approval, he brought her back into his life.
You have three options from my POV:
You can leave the relationship. You can befriend her yourself. I know it might be awkward and naked at first. But in the end, everyone wins. You can request what you originally had him do.
Whatever option you pick, this trust issue situation you're in, needs to go. Its impossible to have a long term healthy relationship when there is something like this on the table.