(UPDATE) Should I (f25) reveal to our boyfriend (m24) why their bandmates are bullying your pet?
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The big meeting was postponed by 2 weeks, so I told my partner about everything yesterday. He wasn' t surprised, yet more importantly, he revealed the real reason behind everything: turns out it' s even more petty than I thought. In high school, Jane distanced herself from the friend group not because of my boyfriend' s actions (she was completely okay along with that), but because she was rejected by one more guy in the group. Despite that, they all continued to ask her to hang out for 2 yrs, but she always discovered an excuse to not attend or simply just didn' t respond. These people even invited her for their birthday parties, but the lady never showed up. The final hay was when Jane responded “don' t you see I possess way better friends now” to a girl in the team who was trying to be helpful with her. The group jointly decided to end their friendship with Jane and kicked her out of all their social media groups. Since my partner was the social media admin of everything, he was the one who literally removed her, but it was obviously a 100% shared decision after two years of shitty behaviour. Anyway, my boyfriend told me he was already thinking about leaving his band since he or she feels he' s losing time with them (on top of everything, they are all rich kids with zero sense of how to manage a group). Luckily, he' s more furious than hurt by the situation and will definetly find good people to share his interests with. Thanks to everyone who also took the time to comment and provide advice!
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No, this is not standard. Please don't let your doubt carry over into future relationships.
Sometimes being just friends or remaining in touch is not in the cards. She ended the relationship, just accept it, don't try to continue contact, move on with your life.
You might never figure out “why” she broke up with you. It would be helpful to know, so you don't repeat mistakes, but she is under no obligation to explain herself.
Yeah, it’s really starting to feel that way.
the relationship itself only started 2 years ago when she was 27.
2 years is plenty of time at 29 if they happen to want to start a family.