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Ef, her a gift given is a gift gone. She has no right to the ring and you owe her nothing. Don't over think a crush into being more than it is. Most relationships that burn super nude also burns out quick. Goodluck and keep on keeping on.
First off none of that is your fault, he's abusive by verbally threatenig and doing this it's manipulation, can the police or his family that's all you can do. You should also break up with him and block him so he can't send you anymore threatening texts
Might be a case of āLearned Helplessnessā. I was in a similar situation once. My ex-husband and his family were quite wealthy, whereas I grew up in a low-income, single-mom household. I was a stay at home mom of a 2yo and wanted to leave desperately but had nowhere to go. He capitalized on this by treating me poorly, thinking Iād never leave the comfort of financial stability.
My days became bleak and dreary and I stopped looking forward to the future. One day I imagined my daughter dating and marrying a man just like her father, and I was terrified. She didnāt deserve that! But what are her options? Hide behind her fear and stay while slowly dying inside? Or face the fear of the unknown in a challenging situation but surfacing as a stronger woman?
When I shifted my perspective, I became empowered. I realized that if it wasnāt okay for her, then itās not okay for me. I am someoneās daughter. I was once a little girl and I didnāt do anything to deserve this treatment. I realized I needed to leave for her, but also myself. I summoned a huge amount of courage by imagining that I needed to protect my daughter and the little girl inside myself.
It was easily the most difficult challenge in my life but honestly the HARDEST part was deciding to leaveā¦and then following through. Everything after that was easier because by leaving, I was already a happier person.
Iām now sublimely happy, married to an amazing man. I often feel grateful for my life now. I have a calendar reminder every year of the day I left, and I want you to have the same. Find some courage by getting your dog out of that situation, or imagine your niece or little sister in your shoes. What would you want for her. Because you are her and you deserve better.
Hopefully she sees your message but if not definitely go down to her work place. My friends boyfriend was cheating with someone in a 7 year relationship and it turned out the guy did her own tattoo years prior, she went to the shop bc she was somehow blocked on his insta (of course by the cheating gf) and told him everything and they put all the pieces together that they both had and realized a bunch of shit they hadnāt thought too much about before.
You keep telling showing your kid a fake “fixed” home, where the mom the cheats on the dad and he takes all the abuse like a dog. Then your son sees this as normal and grows up to be like you. Gets abused and cheated on but thinks it's ok because his dad did it. You kids will follow your example, not your words.
This guy sounds like a walking red flag. Itās going to be uncomfortable, but she probably shouldnāt go through with the wedding. Do you think she can still get some of the money back for the wedding? This reminds me of so many military weddings Iāve seen. Things donāt usually get better and now they have split everything they have with that person. One of my friends is still trying to divorce her husband because he refuses to sign the papers.
Thereās waaaay too many incompatibilities youāve listed to make this a long term functionality relationship. Youāve given multiple examples of him not listening to you and considering your needs.
Being on the same page about having kids is make or break. If you donāt agree now it will lead to resentment for one or both of you. Neither of you should approach this with the view to change the other person.
The sex & housework are only going to cause resentment and conflict down the track. Hell, you mention your own dad who likes him told you to bail because of the housework.
The fact he proposed in a way you donāt like (after advice not to from a friend!) and with a ring the opposite of your tastes shows he doesnāt respect your preferences and he will just railroad what you want with what he thinks you should want.
It doesnāt matter if your friends and family love him- they donāt have to be in the relationship with him. When I was your age I dated someone who was awful to me, but who was so charming/great according to my family. They didnāt know what he was like one on one. We split and I was much happier.
Youāre only 24, you have plenty of time to meet someone who youāre a better match with.
Thereās a phrase in Italian, attabacconi, that translate as buttonholer. It means someone who corners you and unloads their problems. Thatās what your girlfriend is. Ask her to change. If she canāt then thatās who she is and if you find it a dealbreaker (I would) then you need to leave her. Youāre young. No reason to suffer that shit for any longer than you already have.
Ef, her a gift given is a gift gone. She has no right to the ring and you owe her nothing. Don't over think a crush into being more than it is. Most relationships that burn super nude also burns out quick. Goodluck and keep on keeping on.
Answer is in the title, I think. ?
Thatās not absurd at all, itās a boundary most people have actually.
You're welcome dude. You'll find someone in the future who's on the same path as you, this won't be the end
First off none of that is your fault, he's abusive by verbally threatenig and doing this it's manipulation, can the police or his family that's all you can do. You should also break up with him and block him so he can't send you anymore threatening texts
Might be a case of āLearned Helplessnessā. I was in a similar situation once. My ex-husband and his family were quite wealthy, whereas I grew up in a low-income, single-mom household. I was a stay at home mom of a 2yo and wanted to leave desperately but had nowhere to go. He capitalized on this by treating me poorly, thinking Iād never leave the comfort of financial stability.
My days became bleak and dreary and I stopped looking forward to the future. One day I imagined my daughter dating and marrying a man just like her father, and I was terrified. She didnāt deserve that! But what are her options? Hide behind her fear and stay while slowly dying inside? Or face the fear of the unknown in a challenging situation but surfacing as a stronger woman?
When I shifted my perspective, I became empowered. I realized that if it wasnāt okay for her, then itās not okay for me. I am someoneās daughter. I was once a little girl and I didnāt do anything to deserve this treatment. I realized I needed to leave for her, but also myself. I summoned a huge amount of courage by imagining that I needed to protect my daughter and the little girl inside myself.
It was easily the most difficult challenge in my life but honestly the HARDEST part was deciding to leaveā¦and then following through. Everything after that was easier because by leaving, I was already a happier person.
Iām now sublimely happy, married to an amazing man. I often feel grateful for my life now. I have a calendar reminder every year of the day I left, and I want you to have the same. Find some courage by getting your dog out of that situation, or imagine your niece or little sister in your shoes. What would you want for her. Because you are her and you deserve better.
Hopefully she sees your message but if not definitely go down to her work place. My friends boyfriend was cheating with someone in a 7 year relationship and it turned out the guy did her own tattoo years prior, she went to the shop bc she was somehow blocked on his insta (of course by the cheating gf) and told him everything and they put all the pieces together that they both had and realized a bunch of shit they hadnāt thought too much about before.
You keep telling showing your kid a fake “fixed” home, where the mom the cheats on the dad and he takes all the abuse like a dog. Then your son sees this as normal and grows up to be like you. Gets abused and cheated on but thinks it's ok because his dad did it. You kids will follow your example, not your words.
This guy sounds like a walking red flag. Itās going to be uncomfortable, but she probably shouldnāt go through with the wedding. Do you think she can still get some of the money back for the wedding? This reminds me of so many military weddings Iāve seen. Things donāt usually get better and now they have split everything they have with that person. One of my friends is still trying to divorce her husband because he refuses to sign the papers.
…heās pretending to be a female lesbian on-line to view explicit content.
This is a deal breaker for me, he's lying and manipulating women to get nudes.
It's disgusting.
Thereās waaaay too many incompatibilities youāve listed to make this a long term functionality relationship. Youāve given multiple examples of him not listening to you and considering your needs.
Being on the same page about having kids is make or break. If you donāt agree now it will lead to resentment for one or both of you. Neither of you should approach this with the view to change the other person.
The sex & housework are only going to cause resentment and conflict down the track. Hell, you mention your own dad who likes him told you to bail because of the housework.
The fact he proposed in a way you donāt like (after advice not to from a friend!) and with a ring the opposite of your tastes shows he doesnāt respect your preferences and he will just railroad what you want with what he thinks you should want.
It doesnāt matter if your friends and family love him- they donāt have to be in the relationship with him. When I was your age I dated someone who was awful to me, but who was so charming/great according to my family. They didnāt know what he was like one on one. We split and I was much happier.
Youāre only 24, you have plenty of time to meet someone who youāre a better match with.
Good luck.
i do want real love š
Yeah, the reality is you only want your partner for outside the bedroom, which isnāt really very fair to him.
She told him and he walked away. Nice try but the piece of shit is the dead beat ādadā. Iād tell him it was the other guys kids and block him.
For sure. Anything is possible.
Maybe OP will elaborate.
Truth without compassion is cruelty.
Thereās a phrase in Italian, attabacconi, that translate as buttonholer. It means someone who corners you and unloads their problems. Thatās what your girlfriend is. Ask her to change. If she canāt then thatās who she is and if you find it a dealbreaker (I would) then you need to leave her. Youāre young. No reason to suffer that shit for any longer than you already have.