That’s pretty much what it is. Like I said the last year has been rough, but I’ve been trying to move forward. Just not sure if it’s really worth it anymore.
I've never felt quite like such a bystander in my whole life
But you've been a bystander for your relationship. Six years, living together, planning a future together, knowing marriage was what you were both eventually heading for. When exactly were you going to take the driver's seat yourself in that?
I don't agree with how she went about it, but you're the reason you're a bystander.
You're assuming that sex in any form is pleasurable for her at all. Let's not try to assume their situation. Sex (not matter it's form) could be painful, not pleasurable , unstimulating for her. There are many diseases and medication that can cause this.
YOU didn't fuck up, he did by bringing this shit in to your marriage just because he wanted to have sex with his coworker. Now he's feeling jealous and insecure and so is his coworker. You are taking the brunt of their selfish ass bullshit. Taking abuse from her AND your husband? Nah fuck that. They are just getting a little taste of real life. They wanted this now they're dealing with the fallout (their own jealousy). It sounds like you and the other husband had a nice time together and they didn't like that BUT it's their fault. THEY DID THIS, stop taking their bullshit. Tell the wife to get fucked next time she texts. If she's feeling insecure tell her to sort it out between her and her husband. Tell your husband that he bought this situation into your marriage and it's not up to you to salve his ego. Suggest counselling and put the responsibility right where it needs to be. On their shoulders. You sound like a nice woman who was just trying to please her husband and stay married. He changed your marriage, not you.
That’s pretty much what it is. Like I said the last year has been rough, but I’ve been trying to move forward. Just not sure if it’s really worth it anymore.
You remorselessly cheated on your husband for over and year and you're “not sure” if you should be married????
I've never felt quite like such a bystander in my whole life
But you've been a bystander for your relationship. Six years, living together, planning a future together, knowing marriage was what you were both eventually heading for. When exactly were you going to take the driver's seat yourself in that?
I don't agree with how she went about it, but you're the reason you're a bystander.
You’ve “outgrown” each other. Move on. She’s rude and judgmental.
I haven't talked to the guy in a year already and Im currently in a happy relationship.
You're assuming that sex in any form is pleasurable for her at all. Let's not try to assume their situation. Sex (not matter it's form) could be painful, not pleasurable , unstimulating for her. There are many diseases and medication that can cause this.
YOU didn't fuck up, he did by bringing this shit in to your marriage just because he wanted to have sex with his coworker. Now he's feeling jealous and insecure and so is his coworker. You are taking the brunt of their selfish ass bullshit. Taking abuse from her AND your husband? Nah fuck that. They are just getting a little taste of real life. They wanted this now they're dealing with the fallout (their own jealousy). It sounds like you and the other husband had a nice time together and they didn't like that BUT it's their fault. THEY DID THIS, stop taking their bullshit. Tell the wife to get fucked next time she texts. If she's feeling insecure tell her to sort it out between her and her husband. Tell your husband that he bought this situation into your marriage and it's not up to you to salve his ego. Suggest counselling and put the responsibility right where it needs to be. On their shoulders. You sound like a nice woman who was just trying to please her husband and stay married. He changed your marriage, not you.