It sounds like you are in a difficult situation and, while it is not easy to navigate, there are productive steps that can be taken. First and foremost, let us talk about your self care as this can often take the backseat when coping with relationship issues. Make sure that you allow yourself regular time for relaxation activities such as exercising or simply to unwind by listening to music or taking a walk. Additionally, remember to reach out for help from friends and family when needed.
When trying to address any issues within the relationship it is important that both parties feel respected and heard throughout this process. Communicating openly with compassion and understanding of each other's feelings allows for an environment in which disagreements can be discussed without fear of judgment or criticism Doing so will likely require patience & practice on both sides but it is ultimately through activities such as these that allows relationships to develop further beyond just fixing what was broken before hand rather growing together towards finding peace & balance within the relationship.
I know all of this can feel overwhelming at times so if talking-it-out feels too daunting then do consider seeking professional help where they may provide further advice tailored specifically towards your current predicament such as couples counseling!
So, I don't think you should talk to him again. If he didn't talk to you anymore, not even to ask how you are, he means that he was just looking for someone temporary, nothing more. Not worth it
What kind of “feelings” are we talking about? Like, he finds her physically attractive, or he wants to pursue a relationship with her?
I have good friends who I find very attractive. But I'm certainly not considering replacing my wife with any of them.
I bet that if I were to complain about my wife to them, they would 100% do their best to be supportive, and it would look like they were ganging up on her. (lol, most of them. A couple would likely say “shut up stupid, she's already too good for you”.)
But if he is talking about wanting to have a romantic relationship with them, then obviously that's not something you can tolerate.
“The customer is always right” in matters of taste.
I went to a “fancy” steakhouse with friends years ago. When our “rare” steak came out my friends asked for A1 and ketchup. I was embarrassed because that simply isn’t done at a nice steakhouse, and the waiter pushed back. But you know what? The steaks were dry and bland and overcooked.
Simply kowtowing to expectations because you’re in an expensive restaurant is silly. If the guy wanted extra spice, he can ask for it. If OP doesn’t like it, fucking move on. I don’t know what whining on Reddit will accomplish.
That might answer your question then. If there's a personal reason you can't pursue her, then don't. Until whatever that personal thing is, is resolved, you shouldn't be involved with anyone. It's not fair to them. If you're not at 100% yourself, you can't be 100% for a partner.
And generally, it's just not a great idea to pursue a coworker. What if you ask her out, and she says no? Now she's in a situation where she's likely to feel uncomfortable. I would also bet she'd worry that if she says no, you could influence people not to promote her. Or it could go the other way. If she is promoted, she might think you influenced people to do so, so she might change her answer. She might feel pressure to accept because you are higher up in the company than her. It just gets so complicated.
I know sometimes it works out, but you gotta be really really really really really sure that she's actually interested in you. It can't just be “flirty” behavior.
How does it impact me when i didn’t raise my son to do this i would love to be there
It sounds like you are in a difficult situation and, while it is not easy to navigate, there are productive steps that can be taken. First and foremost, let us talk about your self care as this can often take the backseat when coping with relationship issues. Make sure that you allow yourself regular time for relaxation activities such as exercising or simply to unwind by listening to music or taking a walk. Additionally, remember to reach out for help from friends and family when needed.
When trying to address any issues within the relationship it is important that both parties feel respected and heard throughout this process. Communicating openly with compassion and understanding of each other's feelings allows for an environment in which disagreements can be discussed without fear of judgment or criticism Doing so will likely require patience & practice on both sides but it is ultimately through activities such as these that allows relationships to develop further beyond just fixing what was broken before hand rather growing together towards finding peace & balance within the relationship.
I know all of this can feel overwhelming at times so if talking-it-out feels too daunting then do consider seeking professional help where they may provide further advice tailored specifically towards your current predicament such as couples counseling!
So, I don't think you should talk to him again. If he didn't talk to you anymore, not even to ask how you are, he means that he was just looking for someone temporary, nothing more. Not worth it
She may be depressed . Staying at home w/ 3 little children is difficult, lonely , boring & can be depressing .
What kind of “feelings” are we talking about? Like, he finds her physically attractive, or he wants to pursue a relationship with her?
I have good friends who I find very attractive. But I'm certainly not considering replacing my wife with any of them.
I bet that if I were to complain about my wife to them, they would 100% do their best to be supportive, and it would look like they were ganging up on her. (lol, most of them. A couple would likely say “shut up stupid, she's already too good for you”.)
But if he is talking about wanting to have a romantic relationship with them, then obviously that's not something you can tolerate.
Thanks, I guess I'll have to make a move then.
“The customer is always right” in matters of taste.
I went to a “fancy” steakhouse with friends years ago. When our “rare” steak came out my friends asked for A1 and ketchup. I was embarrassed because that simply isn’t done at a nice steakhouse, and the waiter pushed back. But you know what? The steaks were dry and bland and overcooked.
Simply kowtowing to expectations because you’re in an expensive restaurant is silly. If the guy wanted extra spice, he can ask for it. If OP doesn’t like it, fucking move on. I don’t know what whining on Reddit will accomplish.
That might answer your question then. If there's a personal reason you can't pursue her, then don't. Until whatever that personal thing is, is resolved, you shouldn't be involved with anyone. It's not fair to them. If you're not at 100% yourself, you can't be 100% for a partner.
And generally, it's just not a great idea to pursue a coworker. What if you ask her out, and she says no? Now she's in a situation where she's likely to feel uncomfortable. I would also bet she'd worry that if she says no, you could influence people not to promote her. Or it could go the other way. If she is promoted, she might think you influenced people to do so, so she might change her answer. She might feel pressure to accept because you are higher up in the company than her. It just gets so complicated.
I know sometimes it works out, but you gotta be really really really really really sure that she's actually interested in you. It can't just be “flirty” behavior.
OP should get the jump on her and suggest it.
I appreciate it and I know you're right. Thanks for the advice