I don’t disagree with some of that. His actions may have been thoughtless towards the bride, but his intentions appear to be laser focused on his woman – not his own needs.
Sure, it was a bit misguided, but it didn’t seem he intentionally meant to upset anyone. I assume he thought he was doing a very cool thing, and just didn’t have the same social awareness as OP.
I guess because j read his intentions as good, I empathize with his deep and public rejection. I know crowds of people who would have responded differently. It’s not a moral failing, it’s just a different perspective.
Exactly. What would she have done if she stayed? Sat and held his hand? Mopped his brow? Seems a bit selfish. Assuming she was back in a few hours. He could have even slept through it.
Towards the end of your post, you started to answer your question and were rational about why you need to get away from this and break off cleanly and forever. You quite correctly said this is toxic. That's a good enough reason. All of the manipulative acts that you describe and including this bizarre thing about the receipt for an engagement ring? That's all manipulation. You've just giving yourself plenty of reasons to go and find one of the other billions of men available in this world to be with and then… You say he truly loves you.
Can I just tell you right now he is not in a place where he's emotionally, mentally capable of loving anyone. He does not love you. Love is not words. Love is actions. There is nothing in his behaviour to suggest he loves you. The clear evidence is that he manipulates you, that he wants to keep you on a string. He guiltrips you. There is no genuine mature mutual love in this relationship.
The sooner you break this off, You can start living your life again it may possibly better for both of you. Certainly better for you, but he might start getting the real therapy he needs to mature as a person. He might one day be able to be capable of love. Today is not that day. Leave.
I don’t disagree with some of that. His actions may have been thoughtless towards the bride, but his intentions appear to be laser focused on his woman – not his own needs.
Sure, it was a bit misguided, but it didn’t seem he intentionally meant to upset anyone. I assume he thought he was doing a very cool thing, and just didn’t have the same social awareness as OP.
I guess because j read his intentions as good, I empathize with his deep and public rejection. I know crowds of people who would have responded differently. It’s not a moral failing, it’s just a different perspective.
Yes, you should be clear about your intentions.
or did he tell you his doctor told him that – were you there to hear it?
The kid saying you don't understand English can't grasp basic spelling or punctuation, so you can safely ignore his bad takes and terrible opinion lol
Run. Run fast. Run far. Run and never look back.
Exactly. What would she have done if she stayed? Sat and held his hand? Mopped his brow? Seems a bit selfish. Assuming she was back in a few hours. He could have even slept through it.
This is what I'm saying and yet I was downvoted to hell.
You literally give off the strongest redpill vibes I’ve seen in a long time. You don’t have to say redpill to act like it
INFO: are they all actually two middle schoolers in trench coats instead of actual adults? Because this is psycho child bullying behavior.
Thank you for your input. I understand the importance of discussing the specifics of our prenuptial agreement before my fiancée moves here. We will work on this together and make sure that we have a clear understanding of the terms and how they may apply in different scenarios, including relocation.
Towards the end of your post, you started to answer your question and were rational about why you need to get away from this and break off cleanly and forever. You quite correctly said this is toxic. That's a good enough reason. All of the manipulative acts that you describe and including this bizarre thing about the receipt for an engagement ring? That's all manipulation. You've just giving yourself plenty of reasons to go and find one of the other billions of men available in this world to be with and then… You say he truly loves you.
Can I just tell you right now he is not in a place where he's emotionally, mentally capable of loving anyone. He does not love you. Love is not words. Love is actions. There is nothing in his behaviour to suggest he loves you. The clear evidence is that he manipulates you, that he wants to keep you on a string. He guiltrips you. There is no genuine mature mutual love in this relationship.
The sooner you break this off, You can start living your life again it may possibly better for both of you. Certainly better for you, but he might start getting the real therapy he needs to mature as a person. He might one day be able to be capable of love. Today is not that day. Leave.
What issues were you experiencing that caused the therapist to tell you to simply get out?