Without the proper training or knowledge required to do so properly, it's not “self diagnosing,” it's just “self guessing,” or with some people “self making-shit-up.”
He has cut her off, and she's been gone for 2 months now. He even got her to give the key to his mum, which has now been retrieved. He didn't act up at the request he blocks her. Every step of the way, he showed me everything he could re them and did anything I asked in regards to her with no argument, no resistance, etc He claims he doesn't want to risk losing me, and I'm worth so much more to him that that 'toxic friendship' But somehow, it all still comes back up in my mind every so often. So much doesn't add up, I constantly have questions, and it's starting to piss him off, i think. He's a very calm man, and I'm yet to see him mad, but we all have our limits.
He keeps saying he never wanted a life with her, children, or to get married, but he wants those things with me I can't tell if he's lying about that, too
So frankly, this might even be a lack of trust AND a lack of respect I feel like I'm just going with the flow right now, I'm at a corss Roads because if I'm going to leave, it's best to do it early
But what I've failed to mention is how good our relationship has been when she's forgotten about. He's so thoughtful, remembers everything I like, shows up with my coffee order, doesn't make me feel stupid when I don't know, respects every boundary I set, constantly has little surprises, flowers etc. I also had a car accident last month, and he came straight to me even after his night shift. He stayed up, pushing 48 hours to get me through it all. When it snowed, he knew I've always wanted to dance and kiss in the snow with my S/O, so he surprised me after work and took me out to do exactly that. One time, he even drew a huge heart in the snow on a field outside his house and sent a video of it to cheer me up.
I hope that explains why this is a difficult decision
My ex was very abusive, so to have someone so calm and loving is something I've been longing for and it's so naked to find men like that.
He has a too-close ex and the story he’s chosen to tell you is that he’s a horrible person who used her. How does this make the fact that he has an ex as a friend better? if anything you should run screaming.
You are disappointed the plans changed and that is ok.
From the words of our pediatrician when we wanted daughter to be home, our 2nd released, after she cleared the jaundice protocols, it was a Sunday night. He said I get you want your baby home, and she is free to go, are you sure you don't want 1 more night before you spend the next 18 years raising her? She was 5 days old; our son was in for 7 days before released. It's very hot not taking baby home and it sucks having to go back to visit.
Use this time to prepare for when baby gets home and both of you get some sleep now, the next few months will be tough.
Yes, she may not be in tons of pain, but her body has been through hell and still needs to recover.
Congrats dad, the fun of sleepless nights is still ahead. Rest and relax. Life will be crazy, so enjoy some peace before it happens.
Husband was very controlling- especially the I might forgive you part. Talk about histrionics on his part! How about some concern? At OP’s age, we are all very sensitive. Women are always having to compete with each other. Does ex’s present partner feel happy about ex having porny photos of his gf or wife. Ex herself gets a say. Contact her and see how she feels. Tell husband you are going to do this. Husband sounds like father with naughty child. Imbalance of relationship.
Without the proper training or knowledge required to do so properly, it's not “self diagnosing,” it's just “self guessing,” or with some people “self making-shit-up.”
He has cut her off, and she's been gone for 2 months now. He even got her to give the key to his mum, which has now been retrieved. He didn't act up at the request he blocks her. Every step of the way, he showed me everything he could re them and did anything I asked in regards to her with no argument, no resistance, etc He claims he doesn't want to risk losing me, and I'm worth so much more to him that that 'toxic friendship' But somehow, it all still comes back up in my mind every so often. So much doesn't add up, I constantly have questions, and it's starting to piss him off, i think. He's a very calm man, and I'm yet to see him mad, but we all have our limits.
He keeps saying he never wanted a life with her, children, or to get married, but he wants those things with me I can't tell if he's lying about that, too
So frankly, this might even be a lack of trust AND a lack of respect I feel like I'm just going with the flow right now, I'm at a corss Roads because if I'm going to leave, it's best to do it early
But what I've failed to mention is how good our relationship has been when she's forgotten about. He's so thoughtful, remembers everything I like, shows up with my coffee order, doesn't make me feel stupid when I don't know, respects every boundary I set, constantly has little surprises, flowers etc. I also had a car accident last month, and he came straight to me even after his night shift. He stayed up, pushing 48 hours to get me through it all. When it snowed, he knew I've always wanted to dance and kiss in the snow with my S/O, so he surprised me after work and took me out to do exactly that. One time, he even drew a huge heart in the snow on a field outside his house and sent a video of it to cheer me up.
I hope that explains why this is a difficult decision
My ex was very abusive, so to have someone so calm and loving is something I've been longing for and it's so naked to find men like that.
He has a too-close ex and the story he’s chosen to tell you is that he’s a horrible person who used her. How does this make the fact that he has an ex as a friend better? if anything you should run screaming.
You are disappointed the plans changed and that is ok.
From the words of our pediatrician when we wanted daughter to be home, our 2nd released, after she cleared the jaundice protocols, it was a Sunday night. He said I get you want your baby home, and she is free to go, are you sure you don't want 1 more night before you spend the next 18 years raising her? She was 5 days old; our son was in for 7 days before released. It's very hot not taking baby home and it sucks having to go back to visit.
Use this time to prepare for when baby gets home and both of you get some sleep now, the next few months will be tough.
Yes, she may not be in tons of pain, but her body has been through hell and still needs to recover.
Congrats dad, the fun of sleepless nights is still ahead. Rest and relax. Life will be crazy, so enjoy some peace before it happens.
Sure, but to deliberately seek out female friends while committed to someone? You don't think that's a bit odd?
Husband was very controlling- especially the I might forgive you part. Talk about histrionics on his part! How about some concern? At OP’s age, we are all very sensitive. Women are always having to compete with each other. Does ex’s present partner feel happy about ex having porny photos of his gf or wife. Ex herself gets a say. Contact her and see how she feels. Tell husband you are going to do this. Husband sounds like father with naughty child. Imbalance of relationship.