Yes it was serious, there are certainly the tryhard kind of couples like youâve brought up but there are also ones that just heap loads of affection onto their partners openly and mean it. Some of the people I know from school have legitimately been together since freshman/sophomore years of HS and now theyâve got families and weâre years removed from graduating. My parents again, great example of two people who really donât have any reason to put up a facade- my dad rented my mom a gorgeous car to drive her around in when she graduated from grad school, my mom just took my dad to see his favorite fighter yesterday and get a picture and autograph. Because they love each other. Both of those things are on social media and theyâre nowhere near divorce.
Until youâre (general you, not you specifically) the only friend with the dead partner you donât know how lonely it is. Then everyone tries to console you with how âit doesnât happen that oftenâ/âpeople normally donât die that young.â Like okay normally, but this bad thing happened to her so my odds have gone from 50/50 to 100% losing her. Like please imagine how rough it is to get up daily knowing all of your friendsâ partners are accounted for and yours is in an urn. I donât know how therapy changes that, or how I feel about it. Sheâs gone.
I donât know how to get around it without a specialist picking at me until I get upset but I have to somehow so I donât die alone. The days I feel like I still have even a little hope to get married are like little rays of sun coming in through the blinds, because theyâre some of the only times I feel Iâm not disrespecting her memory and that I can truly separate her and I (in the past) from a future that doesnât have her in it.
Yes, I went through that hereâs what I did. I started counseling and a friend of mine from work came and got me during the daytime packed all my stuff up and my dog and my cat and left. I went to the therapist office and on a 3 x 5 card read a statement to him over the phone. He screamed into the phone yelling, but I just kept repeating the same thing over and over again. The phrase was basically this isnât working out for me anymore. I move my stuff out and I ask that you donât contact me again. I read that over and over again and then I went and got a restraining order. I saw him one more time and heâs really mad beg to come back and said he go to counseling. I got clean and sober. He died early from alcoholism.
She's trying to wriggle her way back in your life by emotionally manipulating her son to manipulate you. Tell her you don't appreciate it and to not do it again or you will block her on all platforms.
Yes, weâre both on the lease. My brother being a co-signer is the problem, I donât want him to be screwed if I move out and then my ex loses his job and canât pay rent đ
Yo wtf is up with people like you boundaries don't exist? What if he wanted Anal and she didn't like it should be good somewhere else? What happened to compromise in a relationship
She should come to you, and you should give her a cup at your shop.
Heâs one of those. He likes attention but not relationships.
Yes it was serious, there are certainly the tryhard kind of couples like youâve brought up but there are also ones that just heap loads of affection onto their partners openly and mean it. Some of the people I know from school have legitimately been together since freshman/sophomore years of HS and now theyâve got families and weâre years removed from graduating. My parents again, great example of two people who really donât have any reason to put up a facade- my dad rented my mom a gorgeous car to drive her around in when she graduated from grad school, my mom just took my dad to see his favorite fighter yesterday and get a picture and autograph. Because they love each other. Both of those things are on social media and theyâre nowhere near divorce.
Until youâre (general you, not you specifically) the only friend with the dead partner you donât know how lonely it is. Then everyone tries to console you with how âit doesnât happen that oftenâ/âpeople normally donât die that young.â Like okay normally, but this bad thing happened to her so my odds have gone from 50/50 to 100% losing her. Like please imagine how rough it is to get up daily knowing all of your friendsâ partners are accounted for and yours is in an urn. I donât know how therapy changes that, or how I feel about it. Sheâs gone.
I donât know how to get around it without a specialist picking at me until I get upset but I have to somehow so I donât die alone. The days I feel like I still have even a little hope to get married are like little rays of sun coming in through the blinds, because theyâre some of the only times I feel Iâm not disrespecting her memory and that I can truly separate her and I (in the past) from a future that doesnât have her in it.
Yes, I went through that hereâs what I did. I started counseling and a friend of mine from work came and got me during the daytime packed all my stuff up and my dog and my cat and left. I went to the therapist office and on a 3 x 5 card read a statement to him over the phone. He screamed into the phone yelling, but I just kept repeating the same thing over and over again. The phrase was basically this isnât working out for me anymore. I move my stuff out and I ask that you donât contact me again. I read that over and over again and then I went and got a restraining order. I saw him one more time and heâs really mad beg to come back and said he go to counseling. I got clean and sober. He died early from alcoholism.
She's trying to wriggle her way back in your life by emotionally manipulating her son to manipulate you. Tell her you don't appreciate it and to not do it again or you will block her on all platforms.
Not as dangerous as you think tbh. She is 22 and wants to experiment maybe either accept it, move on or have a go yourself you will enjoy it.
Yes, weâre both on the lease. My brother being a co-signer is the problem, I donât want him to be screwed if I move out and then my ex loses his job and canât pay rent đ
Fellow person with ADHD here, I can go on my bf for ages without getting bored. I second it being him just being horribly selfish
Yo wtf is up with people like you boundaries don't exist? What if he wanted Anal and she didn't like it should be good somewhere else? What happened to compromise in a relationship